Hi there,
No prizes for originality I'm sure, but I'm in a quandry and would like advice from experienced souls who may have been where I am now. Basically, my wife and I seem to have parted ways sexually over the last few years. We have a great relationship and can occasionally have good sexual encounters, but I feel she is increasingly compliant rather than actively passionate and our relationship is increasingly fuelled by companionship rather than desire. Call me shallow, but passion is very important for me and the idea that someone I still feel so passionate about can take me or leave me is quite deflating. I am generally a confident and outgoing man and have discussed the issue as openly as possible, but my wife has been quite evasive and non- committal and I don't want to harangue her on the topic.
Judging by physical initiation as an indicator of interest, our ratio is probably 10 to 1, with my wife taking the lead probably less than 2 or 3 times a year. This is a very different story from when we first met. She is quite sexually experienced, but I don't think there are external factors at play.
What do I do? I'm quite inventive, open and loving, but I feel I'm watching the flame of our once great passion dwindle.
:-(