Please any advice is so much appreciated. My husband had been out on his usual Sunday and come home late and fell alsleep downstairs. When i got up he went upto bed but left his phone down the side of the chair he fell asleep on so my younger son found it and give it to me. On the front of his phone was the notifications with a snap chap to girl and a whatsapp message to the same girl (which he had changed her name to a boys name in his phone) saying what sexuall thing he wanted to do to her. It only showed so much of the message on the lock screen and i couldn't unlock his phone to read the rest due to his password. I went and confront him and he just told me to f off and stop being paranoid. This young girl works at the club he somtimes works at (he is a doorman). He has since said that she is always stalking and messaging him and wont leave him alone even though he as told her he is married, which is a total lie as for 1 he sent that message i had seen and that didn't look like anything with telling a girl he had a wife! And for 2 he has coincidentally deleted all the mesages he ever sent or recieved from her to prove he tells her to get lost. It is not the first time i have seen messages to other girls but he always has excusses like his mate uses his phone. I don't believe a word that comes out of his mouth no more. I have asked him to leave and he is just being a dick about it and keeps saying he is going know where and how am i going to make him. There has been problems in our marraige over the last few years (been together 12 years) we have 4 children 1 child ADHD and 2nd child who has just recently been diagnosed wit Autism, and he does not bother with them at all. He is always out and when he is home he goes straight upstairs and stays in bed watching telly while i run around after him and the kids. Ive had enought i really dont no what to do, feel like am about to have the biggested brakedown ever and its our babies 2nd birthday in 2 weeks and ment to be having a big party for her. I don't have knowone to really talk to, lost all my friends when i got married and had my kids, he has loads of friends and playing the poor husband. And to top the lot off this all happened on my birthday. Is there anything i can do to get him to leave. I am exhausted not been to bed since Sunday as i cant stand being anywhere near him