Oh kissing and flirting

[Lmg1986]

Hi all
I'm really angry and confused in what I should do!! Basically me,my oh and kids went to a party we both had a drink and everything was going reallly well until oh kept kissing one o the other women there!! I pulled him away and he told me to f* off I left him alone then went back a second time and told him to stop anyways just before we went home he was dancing very flirtatiously with this woman and in the end I dragged him out and we went home but as soon as we got in the house he started swearing and shouting at me in which I told him to leave me a lone and we will talk about it in the morning!! (I went to bed and let him carry on screaming at himself) the next morning he heard my little one ask why he was slamming the doors and shouting in which his reply was I can't remember a thing I'm so upset I screamed at him and asked how he would feel if I did this with his friends he didn't answer and refuse to talk about it yet I know he does remember as I told him he goes out with his single friends and comes home worse than he did that night!!! Now I can't trust him and am thinking does he do stuff wen he is out with his friends cos they won't say anything to me!!! What do I do and how do I tell him I don't trust him anymore

I would end my marriage if my husband behaved like that. No doubt about it, if that's how he behaves in front of you then what the hell is he like when you aren't there??

I wouldn't end my marriage over one incident in as many years but my god he would suffer the consequences of his actions, there'd be a temp split for sure and a slow dating process before I would even consider being with him full time again and that would only be if he could rebuild my trust in him!

He's got a hell of a lot of making up to do OP and I'm afraid from what you write, he doesn't really give a fuck.

Why did you drag him away? If you'd let him, at least you'd have known how far it normally goes.

She's not a dog, or a tart, or someone who should have known better - she should be able to parade around naked and seductively in front of him, along with god knows who, and he should remain faithful to you.

I think your best hope now is that he leaves this to nights that you're not with him, and behaves appropriately whilst you are there - his behaviour strongly suggests this wasn't the first time and he doesn't care that you're hurt - but I suspect he'll just prepare for you to be angry for a while and carry on as normal.

Sorry but I'd say the relationship is dead in the water, you were at a party as a family & he was happily getting his rocks off with someone else in front of you & your kids, wtf? He then proceeded to tell you to fuck off when you called him on it, which is more thsn I'd have done incidentally-would've just left & locked the fucker out.
I really don't think you need to spell out that you don't trust him, that should be very clear to him. Tbh I wouldn't even bother talking to him about it, he has no respect for you & doesn't give a shit about either you or his kids-his behaviour has displayed that in no uncertain terms.

Blame him, not her. He is the one who made the commitment to you, not her.

He sounds vile. Can you ask someone to have the children while you talk to him?

Do not allow him to brush it under the carpet! At the very least, it would be a good idea for him to move out temporarily to give you a chance to think things through.

He's betrayed your trust and you will never trust him again now.

What your actually going to do is nothing. Your going to pretend it didn't happen for the 'sake of the kids' shin in reality it's you that is scared to deal with it and the fall out.

More fool you

He would be leaving my house. To behave this way in front of his partner and in front of children is beyond shocking. Save your anger for him. Calling another woman a dog because your husband was inappropriately behaved with her reflects badly on everyone. This is his fault.

You are calling her a tart but yet your hubby is the one who's married and kissing her. He could have walked away but didn't. It's him you should be angry at. I would be packing his bags.

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