I'll try to keep this short.
I am in my early 20s and I am very close with my Mum, and always had a bit of a difficult relationship with my Dad who can be very nice, or very mean. He has never been physical with me but our arguments turn me into a different, horrible person. A few months ago, my Mum found out that he has been having an affair for almost FOUR years with a very unhinged woman who lives near us, that we know.
My Dad did not move out of the house for 3/4 months, so you can imagine how tense the atmosphere was. Though he has moved out now, he says that it is temporarily but I think he is just trying to get to my Mum and I. He is still popping back every few days to get his clothes/food etc. He is being very nice to me and does not want to lose our relationship, but he does not treat my Mum very nicely when I am not there. He texts me all quite a lot to say that he hops I'm ok, that he is always there for me etc and I say thank you, as I am polite and if I am rude to him he blames my Mum and it causes another argument. Though I feel that I am being disloyal to her and myself, I cannot get over the fact that he has lied to us for that long and his behaviour after was not even nice!
Basically I'm torn. Part of me loves my Dad, but I do not feel that I even know him but I do think that he does care about me. However he is very stubborn in his ways, and when he is not getting what he wants he turns mean. I do not want to regret cutting him off, either way I'm stressed and deeply saddened by the possible decision but I can't help wondering if it might be for the best, but I am not sure. I do not speak to any of this family, as the majority of them are cold and have cut me off.
Any advice please?!