Hello... I'm just hoping for some advice if anybody can help me see straight? I recently became the proud mummy to a beautiful baby girl (10 months) and I thought my partner and I were happy. We have had our ups and downs and nearly split a few years ago - we were drifting apart and the relationship had become very tricky - but we decided to give it another go and since then I have put everything into our relationship and having a child has been a wonderful experience. The only trouble is that it is being marred by the constant arguments we are now having, which feel rather like he is taking advantage of my vulnerability now that I need him that much more. I'm sure he would say otherwise as he says he is the victim and I don't respect him, but until his mother and I fell out he seemed ok. She demanded, in an emotional blackmailing way, to come and live with us and he said it was ok. At first I tried to go along with it but I soon realised it was a bad idea but I was told that it was a done deal. She stayed for about a month before the rows between DP and I got so bad that he told her it was putting a strain on our relationship and she left. Since then he has become incredibly resentful of me and it feels like we are inn some kind of never ending power struggle. The baby is going through some sort of sleep regression and that, combined with the constant rows, is getting me down so badly I just feel tearful all day, and this has all coincided with my return to work. DP has lost his job and is going to try out self employment so he is home with the baby most of the week, but I am so upset that the wrench is still so painful, and I fear I will lose my bond with the baby, who is always having to listen to our arguments. He says I do anything for him and I'm too dependent on him. I feel as though he is abandoning me just when I need him most. I am isolated from my family who live many miles away and I don't drive. He is a great person in many ways and I know that I am not the easiest person but I am so worried about getting PND and that he will wear me down and stop me from being the good mum that I want to be. We have been trying recently but it only takes a small thing for him to cast doubt on our entire relationship and on me as a person of worth.
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nafflikethat · 26/10/2016 11:18
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