Do you/should I remind my kids about their dads birthday?

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Just that really. In two weeks it will be my XH's birthday, his third since he walked out on us for OW. Up until this year I have always reminded (nagged) my kids not to forget his birthday/fathers day, partly because it was always me who 'did' birthdays in our house. This year I don't know what to do.... Kids are 23,21 & 17 and I feel they're old enough to remember/get cards etc themselves. Two eldest are working but the 17 year old has no money of her own so I would have to give her money for card and present. Since he left he's never once given youngest money to buy me a card/ present for my birthday/Mother's Day /Christmas and although I've loved and treasure them, she's been embarrassed about only having a handmade card and no present to give me. I don't want to be petty but it's time to stop it now isn't it?
What do the rest of you do? I don't care if he feels hurt they've forgotten his birthday but I don't want the kids to feel bad when they do! ( & they surely will!)

I still send my 41 year old brother its mums/dads birthday reminders lol!!

I don't acknowledge my ex's bday or Father's Day in anyway - DS is 5 - I feel it's up to his family members to do that

Your kids are adults. He's on his own!!

I bought stuff for my ex from the kids when they were young because his parents don't live locally and he lived alone.
The kids love their dad and it made them happy to give him stuff for fathers day/ Christmas/ birthdays. It's what families do, I didn't think being divorced should affect that.
I did it for my kids not my ex.

My kids are 8 and 11 and my ex wife hardly reminds them of my birthday. We were together 8 years until she decided to call it quits on the marriage and not even a few months after the divorce she found someone and had a baby without wasting time. Honestly if it were not for my parents my mental health would have been through the roof. My birthday has just passed and I have not recieved a single happy birthday from my two kids who live fill time with her. It happened last year and my ex reason was she forgot my birth date. This is someone I trusted with 8 years of my life enough to have kids with. I have kept quiet and not said a word. My question is should my ex at least remind my 2 little ones of their dads birthday [me]?. If the shoe was on the other foot I would always remind the little ones of her birthday.

Way past time they need reminding. If they don't care enough to remember on their own, it's not your responsibility.

This is the first year I haven't said anything. My DS16s said he had no idea!!. His DF msg me about something else and I couldn't help but say 'your present is here when you come over'. I'll have to got pick up a bottle to give him. Awkward.