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Split 4 months ago. Baby was due this week

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Unrequitedlove · 25/10/2016 22:09

That says it all really. Very upset. Have concentrated on a course I've been doing, working, looking after my ds.. blocked it out. Not many people know, but I'm so upset, it's like it didn't happen, doesn't mean anything to anyone else.. but it did to me Sad

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Wazzler · 25/10/2016 22:10

I'm sorry

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Unrequitedlove · 25/10/2016 22:10

I had an early miscarriage..

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NamerChangerGamerChanger · 25/10/2016 22:11
Flowers
clumsyduck · 25/10/2016 22:12

Am sorry op Flowers

keep doing what you are doing sounds like your keeping busy and positively moving forward

Bimblepops · 25/10/2016 22:13

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

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Unrequitedlove · 25/10/2016 22:13

I'm really trying my best.. but tonight it's really hit me..

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Angleshades · 25/10/2016 22:14

I'm so sorry. You've been through such a tough time, I remember your other threads. Flowers

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Unrequitedlove · 25/10/2016 22:20

Just thinking, it's a blip.. I'll get through it.. but really want to message him, although not sure that's a good idea

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clumsyduck · 25/10/2016 22:53

I haven't seen your other posts so don't know circumstances re your split or what your relationship with ex is like so I guess I can't really comment on whether it is a good idea to message ex or not ?!

Of course today will be hard for you but your obviously doing your best to create a better future so just keep reminding yourself of that. Tommrow is a new day !

HeddaGarbled · 25/10/2016 22:56

Definitely a bad idea to message him. Of course you're upset. I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

Angleshades · 26/10/2016 08:19

Hope you're feeling a little better this morning OP. Don't message him. He won't be in the same emotional place you are in and messaging him won't help you get through this. It will only make you feel worse. You won't get what you think you need from him. You need to work on your own pain and help yourself to get through this. Messaging your xdp will take you back a step and keep you in the past.

Are there any friends/family close by who you can spend some time with? Hopefully it'll help to distract you a little from the pain you're in and give you some much needed support.

Charlie97 · 26/10/2016 08:26

I'm sorry Flowersx

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Unrequitedlove · 26/10/2016 08:57

I haven't messaged him, I've been doing so well, this is just another hurdle to get through. I'm aware I'm drinking more than I normally would and really need to cut down as that's when the emotions come out and of course the thoughts of messaging him etc. In hindsight, I was his rebound following him splitting with his wife.
My family don't know and I can't really talk to my closest friend as unfortunately she was quite judgemental at the time Sad

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