Mums "forgetting" comments

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I know this is a bit trivial but wanted some opinions...

My mum has a habit of "forgetting" my involvement in past activities. For instance we were talking about London earlier and she said "Have you ever been to London?" so I was like..."err yeah...when you dragged me down there to meet your boyfriend remember?"

Another one was "Did you come with us to Gran Canaria?" err...it was a family holiday, I was 12...of course I went.."

It really winds me up, I find it quite offensive but don't know if I'm maybe taking things too personally?

How old is she?

You are taking it too personally.

also, I often remember family holidays ith me, my brother and my sister. In 1988. Which was 2 years before my sister's birth.

she's 52, I know it sounds petty like that but she does it all the time, they did a good enough job excluding me from the family when I was a teen but it's like they still do it now pretending not to remember me when reminising about the past...maybe I'm just being paranoid.

I just couldn't imagine thinking back to my holidays in a few years time and "forgetting" about my kids being there too.

I think...

I think her forgetting is hitting a raw spot on your emotions. You felt very forgotten then, and you feel forgotten now.

I can. In 20 years time I will have got my 2 sons completely muddled in my head, I know it.

I think you're right colditz, still a bit bitter I suppose

They do get muddled, even now my parents ask me if I remember the holiday in Spain, er no, I wasn't living at home then.

Paranoid

I told ds he had been to a swan sanctuary when he was a baby - there was one on Cbebees. In fact it was his older sister 2 and half years before he was born.

My mum swears blind I had my ears pierced when I was in my teens.

I know I had it done for my 6th birthday. I have pictures of me in my primary school clothes looking very young - With My Ears Pierced.

And yet, she is adamant. What annoys me is that she insists she is right, when clearly she isnt.

But, she does forget sequences of events. Im not surprised - her oldest child is 31, her youngest is 23. She has four of us. Thats ALOT of stuff to remember accurately.

This is not quite the same, bs, but I am 56 and I constantly forget who I told something to - so child 1 gets told something 3 times and children 2 and 3 don't get told at all because I think I've told them already. etc etc etc. And, yes, I do forget who was present at which event. (My older kids are 24, 21 and 18.)

They do find it a bit tedious sometimes but they are used to it now and don't take it personally any more - I think! - it's probably just like me with your mum so try to give her the benefit of the doubt (less painful all round if you do!)

Hey, I'm not even 56 yet! See? See? It's 2 more months till my birthday!

Old ladies have teeny tiny brains you know.

my mum's the same age and forgets when/where stff happened and has some very skewed views about how things happened between her and me in the past. We have occasionally had to be parted by DH and my Dad before we come to blows!

Don't take it personally.

Are you a middle child by any chance?

The other day I found a pic of DD1 at the zoo in a buggy, and DS in a disabled buggy. I couldn't remember for the life of me, if dd2 was there or if I was pregnant. It wasn't till MIL came round and said 'that was the day DD2 got stung by a wasp and you had to go to the first aid room' that I remembered. Although I am still unsure as there is no pics of dd2 on that day.

my mum thought i was 22 last bday! which is about 7 yrs out!