EX partner wants son EVERY weekend

[flowerbomb1982]

Hi everybody just looking for advice. I split with my partner 4 months ago we have a little boy who is 3. I left his dad because he would shout at me call me names, kick off if a dinner wasn't up to standard and make me cook another one from scratch things like that. All little things that built up in between the good times. Despite all this he is a good dad and loves my son to bits and is very very good with him.

He has my son two nights during the week and this is only because I go to collect him in the mornings as ex partner has to start work at 6 am ! So I go there and sit for son to wake up then we go home. Weekends he has also been having him from Saturday until Sunday. Initially this worked as we were staying at my parents and they also done childcare whilst I worked so I Was happy for parents to get a break from toddler every weekend.

Now I have told ex partner that I would like our son every other weekend, as I work too during the week and feel I am not getting any weekend time I have Fridays off in the week luckily but its not a weekend. He has flatly refused any of my suggestions. I also suggested it would be better for our son to spend 3 consecutive nights with both of us. He refused. He said he is not going 3 days without seeing our son. Ex partner is very volatile shouts on the phone sends horrible texts that I have ruined his life etc so every time I have to contact him its very draining.

My question is what can I do about him wanting him every weekend, if I don't drop him off he will for sure kick off come to my house and shout. I am scared of him,. not physical violence but he is one of those people who shout so loud and in your face that you cannot even speak. What can he do if I refuse to take my son and keep him for the weekend ? Would any solicitor or judge let him have him EVERY weekend if it was to go down that route ?

I miss my son and want to see him more but I feel bullied at the same time.

Thank you for reading :)

Stop contact every weekend and let him apply to the court for it.

The little boy is only 3. I very much doubt a court would agree that a 3 yo never should have a weekend with his mum.

Good luck op.

Another one rooting for you, OP.

I hope you get to see this before you go to court.

The court have people available to sit in with you if you have no solicitor and are intimidated by the other party. I know as my sister was in exactly this situation. As soon as you get to court ask about.

Hi thanks for all the messages. He didn't turn up to court. The judge made the order - he is not to pester harass threaten intimidate me, not to ring my work number or come to my place of work, to only text me about our sons welfare or contact arrangements. He will get served with it tonight. Lasts for three months hopefully he will get the message.

Excellent news OP! What is the recourse if he does? Does he get arrested or warned or something else?

Brilliant result, flower! Way to go

If he breaks any of the list of things he's not supposed to do i phone the police who will have a copy of the order. They will arrest him and he will go straight to magistrates court no bail .

Well done flower
So glad they granted the order.
Hopefully he will get the message although it may take a while to sink in.
He seems dim but be prepared to call the police with any tiny little thing he breaks!

Brilliant Result

If I were you I'd double check a copy of the order does go to the police. It didn't straight away in my sisters case (hers was for 12 months), 3 months will be over in a flash and you don't want any delays in case he is a dick about it all.