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Spy app help

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imAbeardedLady · 23/10/2016 21:55

Hi
Asking on behalf of a friend.
Please don't tell me she shouldn't be spying, blah blah blah
She knows her husband is cheating. He is denying. She needs hard evidence
Any good advice? Any good app recommendations ?
TIA

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TipsyLimeSnail · 01/03/2025 18:12

Hi I need I'm about to move in with my partner however, I'm not sure intuition feels something not quite right. I need access to his phone to check if I'm right or not if something is going on. I've checked spy apps but just so many has any one used genuine quality service

Chiconbelge · 01/03/2025 19:19

imAbeardedLady · 24/10/2016 02:14

You do need proof, of all sorts of things when your husband makes out you are crazy and gaslights you whenever you try to get him to admit to cheating.
You do need proffered when he is using family money to keep his ow, buy her a house amongst other things
You do need proof when all the marital assetc have been cleverly tied up within his business so you don't actually own your own home, it belongs to the business.....
Trust me, she needs fucking proof or she will be screwed financially when she leaves. She has 5 children ffs. He is very clever unfortunately

You don’t need proof of cheating to get a divorce and get a fair financial settlement — you may feel you need proof to help you feel calmer and better able to assert yourself but proof of cheating won’t change the settlement you end up with. And you already make him sound well worth divorcing. What you may want to collect as much information as you can about is the money.

calmbutfiesty · 01/03/2025 19:26

Your friend has every right to investigate and discover fully the extent of the betrayal be it for emotional or financial reasons. VARs in various rooms, cars should work. She should never reveal how she found out details, just share them with her legal counsel.
It's incredibly insensitive to the betrayed to not understand their need to fully know the betrayal details as the most serious harm/trauma has been done to them and they're trying to make sense of it.
Also, never trust completely any professionals such as lawyers, accountants as they make mistakes, and are not financially motivated to uncover the depth of the financial abuse. They get flat hr rates and most prefer to resolve cases quickly and move on to the next client asap. The "investigations" they do will cost you money and are limited to what a credit report tells them or what her husband (liar) reports. A lot of business owners know how to hide money.
As for spying that is "illegal" let her husband press charges in which the info collected would be made public and his affair partners would be pulled in to court. Not likely

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