Online dating rules

[user1469556577]

Need advice , signed up to dating site but if I'm honest don't know what the rules are . Single for 4 years and am bored of my own company .

Received lots of messages , shocked if I'm honest , do you reply to all or some ? What's the done thing .
I only messaged one person , he asked to meet after a week then let me down on the day. Supposed to meet yesterday then all day he never mentioned it so neither did I . Gutted if I'm honest .

He then said he is talking to lots of women and likes to meet everyone he talks to . Is this how it works ?
Do you juggle lots of conversations then see how it goes ?
I'm so naive , got excited and carried away by someone wanting to see me , I was silly to think it would happen . Ran out and got new jeans and boots , my pride is hurt that he didn't follow through with his suggestion to meet . I just deleted my profile so when he went back on he will see I've just disappeared .
I realise that was silly , but I got carried away with the constant messages thinking he was keen , felt let down so walked away .

I need the rules or at least the guidelines that others use . I suppose I want to be in control rather than sitting waiting on messages and being grateful for any flicker of hope .

Please help

Oh and enjoy it, user1469556577 (and get yourself a better username while you're about it ).

I know my experience is different from others. I'm 42. I don't want marriage or babies or anything. The weirdos and the timewasters make me laugh. I have been on plenty of dates which didn't lead to second dates but they were all fun and interesting in their own way. I quite like the ridiculousness of it. I like the fact that anyone is eavesdropping on your conversation on a first date, then it's very obvious you are on a first date.

I think you're right not to have expectations, just have a few coffees and see if there's anyone you'd like to date from there and try to enjoy it.

See it as will they fit in with me rather then will I fit in with them as well. Be straightforward about what you're looking for as well. I don't want anymore dc so I didn't bother replying to men who said they wanted more children and didn't have any already as I don't see the point in getting to know men and really liking them for it to be a sticking point in the future. Make a list if it helps of what you really want from a new relationship and try to find someone who's looking for the same sort of lifestyle as you.

Mine has now also judging how I behave around that person on a date. If I feel not like myself and all self conscious then I really don't think that will change. Or bored

Sorted out ma username : Furryshorts

Oh a wish a hadn't deleted ma profile , will a look stupid setting it back up again ?

Feel I can write a better profile , be more specific about likes but not too much info .
Recent photo - normal pic , not to glam
Love the thing about mentioning something that they will probably add to the message proving they've at least read your info .
Won't feel guilty about not replying to everyone , just try and start chat with more than one guy.
What I take from your help is to be in control , not be lead by the men .
First meets are obviously just that a get together not a date ,

How did I not know all this before the weekend - making a fool of myself over a guy .

I won't tell you exactly what mine is in my profile in case I out myself but I write something silly about a food combo I like. It's a childish thing but it's true and it sums me right up. Actually a lot of guys who saw it made a comment about it and it's exactly what got me and my latest date talking

Good name mojito! Of course, you'll no longer show as the OP on the thread but hey ho.

Don't feel embarrassed about your previous actions. You didn't do anything wrong. Did you completely remove your account or just deactivate it? I deactivate my account from time to time.

I deleted it completely , was annoyed with myself for getting all excited about something that didn't happen , sitting waiting on a message that never came .

Putting it down to lack of experience , hopefully can write another one soon to put back on and learn from what advice I've been given today . You guys are all amazing - I'm truly grateful

Thanks , yeah that seems a reasonable time frame to see if there's a connection