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Casual sex - can I? Or would I get irrationally jealous!

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wonderstuff100 · 19/10/2016 18:59

Long story short, I've been single for a little over two years, had a good few dates from OLD, tries meet up groups, nothing has come of it. Could either be cos I haven't met anyone I have clicked with or just don't want a relationship.

What I do need, though, is sex. I have quite a high sex drive and 3 times a year just isn't cutting it! However, I'm also not in a position where I couldm or want to, bring a random guy back home when I go out.

So, out of a couple of the guys I went on dates with, I know I could have some sort of casual sex relationship with, they have inferred as much. Which would be fine. However, I have a funny feeling that even if I wasn't interested in dating them and it was just for sex, if they went out on other dates, I'd get jealous. So I feel a bit stuck....

I'd be up for a **buddy but my personality tells me I'd end up feeling irrationally jealous and begin to feel shit about myself. On the other hand, having slept with a guy in July who I was seeing, made me realise that actually I could have sex with him, then not really want him around, so maybe I could do it....

My heads all over the place. Anyone got any experience of this?!

OP posts:
noego · 02/11/2016 14:37

I'm polyamorous so it doesn't affect me. It all depends how you go about it "psychologically"
My **buddies are all independent, have their own homes, families, hobbies, careers, friends etc etc. We meet for coffee's, breakfast, lunches, dinners, movies, shopping trips etc. We put having a nice time with each other first. Sometimes it get physical sometimes it doesn't all depends on the type of conversation we are having over dinner for example. If it gets intimate it may end up in bed or not there is never any pressure on both sides. Mostly it is spontaneous and therefore enjoyable. Having no strings suits us all and we all lead great single lives. All my friends know my attitude to relationships. We all agree that being single is great and being there for one another is also a benefit when life throws up it usual dilemma's, Friends first, sex is just a bonus and dealt with maturely. We have been known to have phone sex when one is horny and needs a loving voice. HTH.

noego · 02/11/2016 14:38

I'm polyamorous so it doesn't affect me. It all depends how you go about it "psychologically"
My **buddies are all independent, have their own homes, families, hobbies, careers, friends etc etc. We meet for coffee's, breakfast, lunches, dinners, movies, shopping trips etc. We put having a nice time with each other first. Sometimes it get physical sometimes it doesn't all depends on the type of conversation we are having over dinner for example. If it gets intimate it may end up in bed or not there is never any pressure on both sides. Mostly it is spontaneous and therefore enjoyable. Having no strings suits us all and we all lead great single lives. All my friends know my attitude to relationships. We all agree that being single is great and being there for one another is also a benefit when life throws up it usual dilemma's, Friends first, sex is just a bonus and dealt with maturely. We have been known to have phone sex when one is horny and needs a loving voice. HTH.

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