ex husbands wife

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i need advice on how to deal with my ex husbands wife, my sons had a serious accident i live a distance away i phoned the hospital to see how my son was, i explained i'm his mum, they said his mum and dad are with him, and wouldn't tell me if he's ok or not, they said only his mum and dad are allowed to visit.
a couple of years ago my son was in court, she stood up in court and told them she was his mum, is there something wrong with her, she can't have children of her own, even my grandchildren are not allowed to call me grandma as she gets angry with them, she says she's grandma,
she hit my dd a couple of years ago because my daughter told her straight,dd wouldn't call her mum, dd is my youngest and she's 23 but has special needs,
i don't know how to deal with this, i want to see my son.

Stop focusing on step mother, switch focus to your son and ignore the politics.

But when she lied in court surely she was called out in it? Need context re that tbh

i will be going to see him first thing in morning, i live 50 miles away and really have nobody to call to take me tonight. i'll be on first train tomorrow

If he lives with a woman and has kids with her, she should be counted as next of kin. It makes no sense that she would be turned away from the hospital.
I hope he's ok.

context of court, i'm sons mum, he went off the rails due to his gran dying earlier in the year gran meaning her mum.

But you didn't split up with his dad until 6 years ago so presumably step mother and family are a very recent relationship group to your son?

Why do you even care what she's telling people?! Just go to the hospital and tell them you're his mother

Can you get a taxi? Or ask a neighbour. If my neighbour (who I've met only once) knocked on my door and explained her DC was in hospital and their condition was so serious they couldn't breathe I would drive them.

context of court, i'm sons mum, he went off the rails due to his gran dying earlier in the year gran meaning her mum.. Doesn't explain WHO asked her to stand in court, was she a witness?

all my sons solicitor told me is she stood up in court and said this, i couldn't be in court so phoned solicitor afterwards to see outcome, solicitor was shocked that i was his real mum. and she lied to everyone.she wasn't a wittness.

She randomly stood up in court and professed to be his mum? A bit extreme :/

very extreme, she had even convinced the solicitor she was mum.

What did your son have to say about that?

he told her straight she had lied in court, but she insisted she's his mum and got very abusive and violent when challenged. if anyone corrects her she gets angry and violent.
i think she's mentally ill

Why were you not there in court?
Why are you not at the hospital now?

No court would allow a person to br violent and abusive in court

If your son is unable to breathe for himself you really do need to get to the hospital immediately. This is incredibly strange

i wasn't in court as i was nursing my dying husband, and i can't get to hospital yet, i have nobody to ask to take me, i asked on my facebook if anyone would take me to hospital, nobody could, i can't afford a taxi, i called taxi company and would be £110 i haven't got £110

This is one of the most bizarre threads I think I've read. Her behaviour is totally mental.

If my son were unable to breathe on his own I'd be by his side not posting on a forum tbh, and she wouldn't even be allowed near him.

I'm thinking there are some huge and possibly quite Jeremy Kylesque backstories going on here.....

Can't you just speak to your ex husband and tell him to tell her to butt out and mind her own business?

And surely as the mother of his three children his partner would be considered next of kin and would not be refused entry? This is really most odd.

Surely you need your ex husband to explain to the hospital who everyone actually is. I would be livid in your situation, and agree with many of the pp that it will be easier to sort out once you are there. Safe journey in the morning, and don't allow yourself to be bullied.

Why do any of your children and granchildren still have contact with this crazy bitch?

His partner/mother of his children should be with him.

I think once the two of you (you and his partner) explain the situation, you need to ask the hospital to have her removed from the building.

grandchildren*

He's a grown man. There is no way that the hospital would refuse to allow his partner to be with him.
This is the most bizarre thread.

Did you get up the hospital OP?

It sounds like she gets away with this behaviour because you all let her.

I hope your son makes a speedy recovery.

Hope all is well and your son is doing better op