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[Chele72]

Hi, I was here a few months ago as I found out my husband who I only married last year had two children that he had never told me about and all his family turned against me as if its nothing to do with me!
I kicked him out after his mother texted me to tell me to mind my own business. Three days later we went to a Relate session and he told me everything. I decided to let him back to give it another go.
I didn't mention the children or anything so we could move forward and he said he would do all he could to make our marriage work but he did nothing! He still lived in the house with my grown up son, daughter and baby granddaughter but didn't speak to anyone! He would go to another room if any of us were in the same room. It was like he no longer wanted to be part of the family.
I looked at his bank statement yesterday to discover that he has been going on an adult live cam site (Adultworks - shows up as AWorks on statements) loads of times for months.
He has been paying £30, £40 and £50 each time, 3 times per week!
I also found a theatre ticket in there for a show I had not been to but he denies he went and said he bought it for a colleague at work for him and his wife - so why did he have one of the ticket stubs?? Makes no sense!
Anyway, he admitted that he has been going to a dark quiet road 3 nights a week after work and logging on to these escorts. He has been chatting and they strip and do all sorts of nasty things for him while he masturbates! I am completely ashamed, embarrassed and disgusted with him and kicked him out immediately!
He thinks that this is just porn but in my eyes it is not! He is paying for this service!
Am I being unreasonable?

Was also about to report ahsan but see its been zapped in the time it took me to log in.
OP you're clearly going through a shite time, hopefully you'll come out of it stronger in the end.
The others calling Ford all sorts of names....get a fucking grip of yourselves. The OPs husband is the problem, not the women he turns to. Nothing like mob mentality eh?

Glasgow, with all due respect-personally I think the blame lays at the door of ops dp, however dont feel it was necessary for ford to taunt her and provoke a reaction.

What a fucking mess of a thread.

Can't quite get out of my mind that the theatre ticket might just have been bought by a 'sex worker' - many have degrees apparently like Belle de Jour (?) - but no, not possible....?

And to be honest £7k for an engagement ring that was and remains a gift would pale the £550 into insignificance. Sell it, invest the money on a new start.

Well didn't mean it as a death threat as didn't say I'd do it myself, sorry no I was out of order but felt for the op and she really was not on. Sorry to everyone I guess but what she said was not on. Sorry op will behave in future😊

Hope your feeling better today OP 😊

NotTheFordType is correct to pull up the OP. Since when do we not challenge these sorts of views about women (any women - sex workers or not) on mumsnet? Couldn't give a shit if the OP is upset, it's not on and is not a 'perfectly acceptable rant'.

Montane with all due respect what I saw was the OP lashing out, understandably so, but at entirely the wrong person. Ford has the right to defend herself & her colleagues, I certainly would! Then it was everyone jumping on the bandwagon. The names etc directed at Ford are completely unacceptable. Disgraceful behaviour.

The only person to blame here is the OPs husband. I do hope the OP gets the support she needs but she needs to learn to direct her anger in the right direction.