How do you know when a relationship is over?

[Natty1806]

Hi

Am currently with my partner who i have been for nearly 10 years, we have been ttc for 18 months and having a few problems.

I am now really questioning if i should stay with him, not because of the ttc thing but because he seems more interested in spending time with his mates and being down the pub than spending time with me.

I like the pub and seeing my friends but more like once a week whereas he is out fri, sat and sun + tues on a normal week.

I think i have been rather good at not keeping him under the thumb and letting him do what he wants but i know feel that i don't know what i want, i don't want to change him but at the same time i am fed up with sitting in on my own while he is out with his mates.

i know i could try and spend more time with my friends but i want to spend time with my boyfriend.

Anyone got any advise?

P.S we live togther and have a dog so moving out would be difficult.

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Glad i am not the only one.

It's hard to tell when you're still embroiled in it isn't it?

I knew my marriage was over when I admitted to myself that the only things keeping me in it was fear of disrupting the children's lives and fear of managing on my own.

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what mw said

but as well as that, finally coming to the conclusion that anything had to be better than the life i was living

Same here, stayed as was scared of turning kids lives upside down...in the end I thought that the risk was surely better than the shit we were all living with.

i knew mine was over when i realised he would never make me happy. And i didnt even want to try

it may just be that you are not spending time alone-its worth just trying to have a romantic date on valentines day, try and remember what first attracted you to him etc

When I realised that I didn't even like her, let alone love her.

And that staying together and constantly arguing was worse for dd1 than splitting and her having a happy home to grow up in.

is it possible to not like someone, and yet feel that you love them??

Do you have to like them? Real question.

Can't answer for anyone else. I can't love unless I like first. I have to be friends first, without that there isn't much to build on.

Sounds up beat, doesn't it?

Pann that sounds more like lust to me

Quelle surprise.