Has anyone had any luck with simply ignoring dh/DP's petulant moods?

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It's my new tactic. I get on with things (I have to, I have two very young children) rather than let it drag me down. That way it doesn't affect the children as much and shows him that he can't get to me.

Of course it annoys me, I'd rather he was reliably cheery. But I can't let his moods dictate mine.

Had anyone tried this and did your dp/dh react differently at all? I suppose I'm hoping that my increasing distance might wake him up!

It's so bad isn't it! I used to tie myself inside out trying to work out his mood and not anymore. It's slowly corroding our relationship.

But it must be beneficial for us as individuals. Years ago I told dp that my mental health was more important than our relationship (this was over something completely different). That statement will always be true and I'll never forget that.

It is sad but it's better than laying ourselves bare time and time again and for what?