Trapped

[WorthlessMe]

I'm trapped in a relationship with a man who cheats on me constantly. He looks for sex online with strangers and prostitutes and he shags his ex with whom he has one child. This is when he is visiting his son.
We have two small children. I have no job, no training, no money and no family support.
I'm not even allowed to cut my hair.

If you struggle to get through to WA on the national number there is a function on this page to search for services in your area which you might find easier to get through to www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory/

Because he regards you as a possession it's immaterial who you're talking to, the fact that you might be talking to anyone at all is "it". Plus a dollop of expectation that sooner or later you will escape the prison he's put you in. Are you ready to escape? The lease may be in your name but I think it might be necessary for you to do the leaving. Ideally he should leave and it might be worth finding out if you could get him evicted? This could be done from a safe distance. Might be pie in the sky as I know nothing about the legalities of housing. What I do know is that you're starting to re-think your life and beginning to wonder what it might feel like to be free of him. With a little planning (WA should be able to help with that) you could be out of there sooner than you think. One thing is for sure. YOU have to be the one to do it. After so long as a prisoner it's hard to realise that walking out of the unlocked cage is do-able. I hope you do it very very soon. If he finds any record of your posts here or calls to WA then you won't have a phone for much longer.

This relationship, as you well know, is toxic and abusive in the extreme. Please save yourself and the dc. Be aware that if he gets an inkling that you're harbouring thoughts of ending this atrocious relationship his abuse will take a turn for the worse. That isn't said to scare you at all. Just be on your guard and allow yourself to make the decision that's begging for your attention.

When I went to the toilet in my community centre yesterday I noticed on the inside of the door was the local number for women's aid. I imagine you will have something similar - think gp, children's centre, community centre - look inside the toilet doors. The local number might be easier to get through on.

You are in a clear-cut case of abuse by coercive control. The police are trained in this and will go through a standard questionnaire. Please phone them on 101. I have a relative who is a police officer and she says they definitely want to hear about cases like yours.
Whoever you phone, tell them you are trapped and your partner is controlling your life.

I'm relieved to read your post keepingonrunning. I was of a mind to suggest a call to 101 but wasn't sure about it, so didn't.