first love back in touch

[teenyveg]

I don't really know why I am posting this.

My first BF from when I was 15 has got in touch via fb and linkdin.
It turns out we now have a mutual fb and that is how he found me.

we were together for nearly 2 years before his family emigrated.
I was 16 and he was 19 when he left. I was devastated as was he but my family were relieved as they thought I was too young for such an intense relationship .
I met up with him every time when he came back for about 6 years and always had a fab time. we talked about our future together but I moved house so many times as a student / young adult- we lost contact eventually. I haven't seen him in 20 years.

I haven't seen him since then but I have thought of him often.

it was a total shock to get friend requests from him and a message saying he had moved back to this country and would love to meet up. he has been trying to find me for a few years and apparently never stopped thinking about us as a couple.

I have a dp and 2 kids. I would never do anything to hurt them and ok - maybe I am jumping ahead a bit - after all he has just asked to meet up. .

I told dp that old ex had got in touch ( he knows all about previous relationships).

I would love to see him but at the same time I wonder why I would bother.

what do you reckon?

[Jinglebellsandv0dka]

teen why don't you get one of your dp ex to come along and invite dp and you could all have a catch up together??

No??

Get over it.

[teenyveg]

Jingle bells - I have already said I wouldn't be too happy if situation reversed with dp and ex.

We do socialise and mix with other exs but I know this particular situation is somewhat different.

I am trying to get over it and taken advice for grips and slapping en board.

[SleepingTiger]

Cabrinha 's first post nailed it.

Invite him round to dinner. He can always be your friend - I mean all of you as a family. If he declines, then there is your answer - he just wanted to indulge himself.