Going out heavily pregnant ?

[butterfly92]

Hi all i am 38 weeks pregnant and with no signs of labour coming just yet lol i have been confined to my house all week and my partner has been working! My friend and I planned to have lunch before she goes away so i said today is best day but my partner is really grouchy and moody saying that i am selfish that i am putting her first instead of myself and body and why would i risk driving i said im not driving im getting the bus cos i cant fit in the car anymore and he said well everyone will laugh at you becos a heavily pregnant woman shouldn't be going out!!! Please tell me is he for real?? I cannot believe i am being made to feel guilty for going out to have lunch and that i am putting my baby in jeopardy which is not true!! PS he never said anything like this to me before until now . I know he is worried. Should i stay at home then? Feeling so frustrated :( he cant drop me cos he is working

[Happybunny19]

Unless the doctor actually orders bed rest of course you can go out. I was walking two dogs in the middle of nowhere at that stage of my first pregnancy and rushing around getting a Christmas tree. I think I have been most lively at the end stage of all three pregnancies actually.

It's your last chance to travel about without new baby and all associated paraphernalia, make the most of it.

[crayfish]

He is being utterly ridiculous! I was at work the day before I had DS (he was full term) and nobody looked at me like I was crazy or should be hiding in the house. Plus at least you'll definitely get a seat on the bus.

[nobeer]

I went to my work's Christmas party when I was 39 weeks. Just go, and enjoy yourself. You're not being selfish. And frankly, so what if you are!

[Maudlinmaud]

Do what you feel up to.
I went to tescos whilst in labour with my last dd and did the big shop. The previous day Id been to a wedding. No big deal.

[Ohyesiam]

His attitude would only work if you plan to have just one child, and even then it's rubbish.

Really important you get out and about.
Enjoy for lunch, and your little one when they arrive

[butterfly92]

Thanks ladies and no my pregnancy is no longer high risk it was at first cos I was being checked for incompetent cervix but they realised that is no longer the case. I just feel really emotional and upset at the moment :( I just need fresh air as well cos The weather is lovely here today as well

[Afreshstartplease]

You should go out if that's what you want to do

I'm 38+5 today. I wish I could be housebound! Unfortunately I've already had to do the school run today and tomorrow I have school run plus two medical appointments to attend. I wish I could stay home! It hurts me to walk

But you on the other hand feel up to it!

[AlbusPercival]

God knows what he's think of me, I'm 38 weeks and swam half a mile this morning

[Ilovewillow]

I am assuming it's your first and also assuming your husband is not normally a twat so I'm going with he's worried and anxious no issue with that! However, he really is worrying unnecessarily and being unkind. At 38 weeks I was still working and went out and did a food shop the day before my daughter was born. Day before I had my son who was a week early I took my daughter out - she was 5 and it was the school hols so she wasn't about to stay in everyday.

Be sensible take your phone don't travel miles and enjoy your lunch. I fact enjoy what ever time you have before baby comes! Good luck to both of you!

[RockinHippy]

Im wondering if your DH is from another country/culture? That could explain his attitude, wouldn't make it any more right, but might offer an explanation ?

I went on holiday to Italy at 32 weeks & I was quite shocked by the change in attitude to my obviously pregnant self there, I might as well of had 2 heads. I also noticed I didn't see any other pregnant women at all. I met nuns at the Vatican who insisted on making a huge fuss & blessing my bump & giving us little gifts for my baby to be, one of them said how surprising & lovely it was to see me out as pregnant women stay home

[Myusernameismyusername]

I gave up work the same day I went into labour. It's ok I didn't have her under my desk haha.

Go have a nice time!

[Racheyg]

Wtf? I went to Glastonbury at 36 1/2 weeks preggers with ds1

Enjoy your lunch with your friend. As it won't be the same when baby comes.

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

give him a slap with a wet kipper!

I passed my driving test at 37 weeks
moved house at 39
went out for a haircut at 40
went out for dinner at 41
wee monkey was 13 days late, I was besides myself.

Go out have a lovely lunch and maybe a small glass of something!

[seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom]

I am 99.9% sure I went out every single day up to the day I went into labour with both pregnancies. The evening before I gave birth to DC1 I was at a pregnancy yoga class. As others have said, with DC2 I had a four year old who needed taking to pre-school, the park, soft play etc so would have been out and about everywhere.

Enjoy this time pottering about in the shops getting final bits for your baby or having a lovely lunch with your friend. And keep an eye on your partner being overly controlling too.

[sianihedgehog]

He's being completely ridiculous. I was still working at 38 weeks, did the Pride parade at 39. I moved house at 2 days after my due date and that was pushing things a bit, but only because of the lifting, I was still driving and wouldn't have thought twice about meeting friends.

[ThinkPinkStink]

I'm 40+3 and I'm heading out for a little walk later - nothing strenuous, nothing too far from home, just to keep my body ticking over.

DH is working from home today so he will make a little lunch to have together when I get back.

I can see how your DH might be nervous about you getting out and about, but that nervousness is misplaced and the way he is expressing it is controlling and unreasonable.

Is he controlling in other areas of your life? Because, to be honest, trying to shame you into staying home (because people will 'laugh') is a pretty low move

[ohdofeckoffnowdear]

Er? I think it's good for you and bump to go out, does you the world of good. Those last few weeks can be hard on you.

Tell your husband to stop being a precious baby.


I went to a wedding night do 4 days before my due date and danced (more like shimmied)

[ThinkPinkStink]

ohdofeck is entirely correct, in my recent experience doing stuff of mat leave is a real mood lifter.

I was working at 38 weeks, but since then have:

• Been for lunch/coffee/cake with various friends/family
• Had a pedicure
• Pottered around the shops
• Met DH for lunch near his work
• Done a lot of pesky but rewarding home admin/chores (dry cleaning, bank meetings etc.)

I haven't strayed more than 30 mins from home (my choice) and I do have a plan in my head for what happens if it all 'kicks off' when I'm out and about...and I'm wearing a heavy duty maternity pad (to catch waters should they break film-style in the supermarket).

It's been lovely just having a bit of quiet time before our lives change forever.

[ThinkPinkStink]

*on maternity leave

FFS

[MadeForThis]

Get out and enjoy yourself as much as you can. It's your last opportunity for baby free lunches and shopping.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Blimey - I was in another county celebrating Christmas and New Year and DD was due on New Years day.
You do what you want and what makes you happy.
No-one will laugh at you.
WTF is wrong with your DP?
He sounds like a cock who's stuck in the 1950's!
Nip this in the bud now.
Because you can bet your ass that when baby comes along you won't be allowed out for other various reasons.
Don't let him dictate.
You are an adult and perfectly capable of knowing your own body and mind.

[Allfednonedead]

With DS I cycled to work up to 38 weeks, and went out to lunch with DP while actually in labour. Your DP is being ridiculous.
As long as you are comfortable, get out there! Staying as active as possible is best anyway.

[Allfednonedead]

Ps do bring your blue folder of maternity notes just in case!

[Sweetpotatoaddict]

I was certain that going to a large stadium concert (seating area) night before my due date would get my dc2 on the way. I still waited another 12 days
You can't shut yourself away for a month.

[LetsJunglyJumpToIt]

I was out and about the day I gave birth. Your DH is being ridiculous. Go out. If he always like this?