Hi all, just looking for some experiences really. Basically I found out that my (D)H has been sending some inappropriate messages to a woman via FB messaging. It is someone who does the same job as him (photographer) and he makes 'jokes' about her sending him some dirty photos, or hoping for a 'snog' when he next sees her. We have been having problems for a couple of years now - I have a chronic progressive illness that has got worse over the past 4 years and this has put in a strain on our relationship and family dynamics (we have 2 kids). I confronted him and he says nothing has happened and it is just banter. I am at home most of the time, as is he, as he works from home, and this woman works in another city, so I am inclined to believe him. But it just feels like such a betrayal from someone who I trusted 100%, makes me feel crap about myself when my self esteem has already recently plummeted. He is obviously unhappy in our relationship, I know most of this is down to my illness but I can't change that no matter how hard I want to (I do do things to try and help like changing my diet etc so I am not just wallowing in self pity). I don't really know what I am asking, just needed to get it out I guess. I have been thinking about separation for a while but it is hard so in so many ways - I worry I would struggle on my own and, deep down, I still love him. I just can't give him the life he wants (what we had in the past) and I spend all my time feeling guilt about it.