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What I really want to say to dh but I won't cos I love him really.............. Does anyone else have stuff they'd like to say?

16 replies

Beelliesebub · 07/02/2007 12:51

Perhaps, in retrospect, my comments last night were in poor judgement, not WHAT I said but WHO I said it to..... BUT that does not excuse the fact that your behaviour was appalling. Was it really so important to you that I was on the phone for 3 mins and you wanted to watch the tv? After all, it?s not like we haven't got a pause button, is it? Besides, you never talk to me, well, not without moaning or complaining about something I or anybody in the whole universe has done because I am the scapegoat of the universe and it?s easier to have a go at me than anyone else cos I?m always here and I don?t argue back cos I?m forever making allowances for you and dealing with everything cos your depressed! Does it never, ever occur to you to just gimme a firkin break?........ At best you are mean spirited and at worst downright obnoxious?. What really p*sses me off is you think you have such a hard life. How can you have a hard life when you don't have to put up with you..... KNOB!

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Beelliesebub · 07/02/2007 13:01

Sorry for ranting but I feel sooooo much better now that I've got that off my chest!

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wotzsaname · 07/02/2007 13:05

glad you feel better. i love a good old rant.

maycontainstress · 07/02/2007 13:05

Ha ha, get it off your chest woman!

My dp does my head in because he will be transfixed on some crappy tv prog and I will be wanting to talk about something important, he will TOTALLY ignore me . I normally turn the tv off and tell him he's the rudest person I've ever met. He replies with "I know". So effing stop it.

Rar.

See, I've done it too now.

scorpio1 · 07/02/2007 13:09

OMG my dp did this to me last night as well. we have just decided to maybe buy a new house together (they are building affordable homes near me)and i wanted to chat with him about it, whilst he was watching something similar to Jackass.(so the tv programme wasnt even an important one!!)

oh how dare i (shock horror) TALK??!!

he just ignores me or gives me one worded answers-drives me insane!

Beelliesebub · 07/02/2007 13:30

I must admit that most of the time he's great BUT he's given up smoking very recently (see I'm making excuses again) and it's turned him into this vile ogre from hell.....
Mind you he's always been a bit tutty huffy and imo suffer's from ocd but how do they keep it quiet until the day after you move in together....... lol

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NineUnlikelyTales · 08/02/2007 11:13

YES PLEASE! I am dying to say this to my DH but my subtle hints have failed and it would break his little heart....

Your dress sense is crap. Stop wearing the same clothes you wore when you were 17. You are fatter now and whereas at 17 you looked interestingly different, now you look like an aging wierdo. Also, get someone else to cut your hair, for the same reasons as above.

Actually, if I thought he would do the above, I would bite the bullet and tell him anyway.

willandsamsmum · 08/02/2007 21:45

NineUnlikelyTales - how about finding a picture of a great haircut or some nice clothes and telling him that he would look unbelievably sexy in that t-shirt/totally hot with that hair/that his arse would look great in those jeans.

I would say that I wish he'd get a job where his incredible intelligence was recognised and he was stretched and had some job satisfaction instead of carrying on in the same old position because it's easy and convenient but I don't because he'd think that I'd turned into his mother who nags him about getting a new job all the time.

Booboobedoo · 08/02/2007 21:50

'If you don't answer, grunt or even look at me, I'll assume you haven't heard me. So I'll repeat what I said. Then I'll say your name. This is not a cue to snap "I heard you the first time" at me.'

Mutter, mutter, blame-his-mother-for-talking-non-stop-at-him-until-he-left-home grumble.

That does feel better. Thanks Beelliesebub.

SaucyMoo · 08/02/2007 21:55

I want to say this to my dh....Lose some weight please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Beelliesebub · 08/02/2007 22:36

A pleasure bbbd It really does feel better cos I have to admit at one point yesterday I wanted to stab him in the eye with a spoon but after I'd had a rant on here I actually found his annoying little ways quite endearing again.......

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2nervesleft · 08/02/2007 22:44

Stop pausing the tv for every little comment I make and making that face as though you are in pain. It makes me feel like I've walked into a cinema and started a conversation with you when the film has just started. Is 24 really soo complicated that you have to hear every line and nuance otherwise you wouldn't know that Kiefer Sutherland is in danger of being killed in the next 24 hours AGAIN!

Ohh that does help, thank you!

sophiaverloren · 09/02/2007 08:47

Ooh, can I join in?

You have trained me so well to not expect any sort of reaction to me telling you anything, that if you really haven't heard and are then totally surprised that I am going out/not making dinner/need you to pick up ds etc etc, then it's your flippin' fault!!! How am I supposed to know the difference between you hearing something and not reacting and not hearing anything and not reacting. See? When I tell you I need some reaction to know you have heard I AM NOT NAGGING!!!!

Ah, that feels better.

3rdtriMOSSter · 09/02/2007 08:54

Oooh I'd love to say this!

"Will you stop having those pathetic salads for dinner every single day instead of a proper lunch, you don't even like them! And give over with the calorie counting you are not fat!! If you really do think you need to lose weight - which personally I don't think you do - here's a novel idea why not just from time to time abandon the car and walk somewhere instead!?"

Ahhhh. That feels much better!

hoolagirl · 09/02/2007 09:07

Good can we all join in!
Why the feck do you act suprised when my son needs watching when im working at night, and its only till 8pm you twat.
Different story when you work nights and I need to watch your son which I do without thinking about it!
I am not built in babysitter and effing bottlewasher of the house cos im the only female here!
Get off your lazy fat arse without being told for once, try doing it 'before' I ask you. TIT !
Ahhhh, thats better!

NineUnlikelyTales · 09/02/2007 10:56

willandsamsmum - that is a good idea, I will try it. I must confess to using a different strategy most of the time - I buy him clothes, and throw away the ones I dislike! The trouble is, he would miss certain items so I can't get rid of them even though I am just desperate to. Poor DH, he is so lovely and gorgeous, I just wish he would dress to suit himself. Oh, and reduce his music collection by about 1/3!

Nine

(Would hate to know what he would really like to say to me )

Beelliesebub · 09/02/2007 18:41

My dh has recently decided he's overweight as well but when I started giving him salad and muller light he suddenly decided that he's ok really and he's entitled to a bit of middle aged spread cos he's nearly 41........

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