No contact

[pinkpixie83]

My boyfriend has gone none contact since Saturday? What do I think - are we still together or not?

I think he is sulking as I said something he didn't like Saturday lunch time as he let me down on Friday.

But where do we go from here? He's not making any effort to contact me and to be honest I'm still annoyed with him, my point from Saturday was about feeling unimportant and like I wasn't a priority to him and his behaviour is just compounding this feeling. I want him to show he understands my point and make an effort:

Not much of a relationship is it? Haven't seen him for a week and not spoken to him since Saturday.

Hey

I've been here before.... before I say any more - how long have you been together?

Been there too. Walk away; he's trying to "train" you.. if you say something he doesn't like then he won't respond, thereby trying to train you not to say things he doesn't like. He sounds selfish/self-centred and controlling. From my experiences, this will not get better / change

He has confirmed your suspicions.

Tell him things aren't working for you anymore and walk away.

Get a better boyfriend, this one is crap.

I wouldn't even tell him it was over. By the time he's decided to talk to you you could well be with someone else - someone who doesn't sulk and ignore you.

He's punishing you for disagreeing with him so that you don't do it again.

It is a relationship. But it's a bad one. I think he's done you a favour. Block him and move on

Hope you're OK. It is a horrible, mind fuckery thing to do to you

Are you together any more? Um, well, I hope not.

I hope you've chucked him for being a dick.

He is deliberately doing the thing you said bugs the hell out of you. Why would you still be together after he did that?

He's walked Op. Block him and move on

We've been together two years!

I have told him before as we are meant to be adults ignoring things we don't like isn't the way to deal with things:

If he contacts me he answer will be - well I thought you didn't want to talk to me as I'd put you in a bad mood!

We have been here before what he can't see is not dealing with the issue makes me crosser!

If he contacts you OP the best answer will be no answer. Anything you say will just open the discussion up

Do you really want to be in a rela
tionship with someone who treats you like this?

I think you have already made up your mind, because what you say is no small issue. If he is exhibiting behaviour like this now, imagine what it would be like when it comes to more serious things, like living together.

I'm actually going through a similar thing.. not zero contact - but very very little because of a stupid drunken rant I decided to do on Sunday night which I regret, but can't change

We actually sound quite similar in that he goes quiet on me quite a lot... I find that ignoring him back is the only way to deal with it and wait for him to make the first move, but do consider everything people are saying. If this is how he is now, it is how it will always be

Focus on yourself, pretend he doesn't exist! Make positive changes in your own life and if and when he contacts, you may not want to be with someone who does this to you and makes you feel like this!

This is game playing and controlling. It's actually really destructive in a relationship and leaves the other person second guessing why he does it. It's really confusing and will likely become emotionally abusive.
It's taken me 30 years to realise this in my DH and I wish I had 'run for the hills' instead of trying to change myself to 'fix it'😞

Maybe I'm as bad as him, and I haven't made any effort to text him either!

I feel like I can't approach him until he addresses my point from Saturday but I imagine he's waiting for me to make the first move!

Urgh. Do you want a relationship that's conducted across a football field? A morse code relationship.

If not then knock this on the head and find someone who will be by your side and willing to maturely address conflicts.

If your boyf is this bad when you're not even committed, it doesn't bear thinking about what he'd be like if you were committed with mortgage, kids etc.

How would you feel if a friend sulked like this? Hopefully you wouldn't put up with it. Sulking is pathetic. My ex was like this. It becomes a real problem when kids involved. Get rid.

Good relationships don't involve games like this.

I cba and really don't see the point in sulking.

And you're both doing it.

You're not talking to him and he's not talking to you?

Not very helpful but you both need to change your ways