Please educate me about The Script

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I'm just going to write a few things down that I've found out today and I would like thoughts on it please:

1. Day started with dh clearing out his bag that he uses for work/holidays. He pulled out an empty condom wrapper and when I saw it, pretended he didn't know what it was. When questioned, laughed and said "I don't have time for that kind of thing.."
2. We have just been for a week's holiday with our 2 dc. We didn't have sex all week. Prior to that he went to his home country alone for 2 weeks, with that bag.
3. When I wasn't satisfied with his response and went into other room to think, he followed me through and said "well it's just like when I suspected that you cheated on me with X" (I have never cheated with X but dh has used this before in arguments to turn it around to being about me)
4. He went to work an hour early saying he couldn't remember what time he started. I only know what time he really started because of the time he called me on his lunch break. I think he was trying to escape the conversation.
5. He text me saying he would never do anything like that to "disgrace the family" and wrote out our marriage vows.
6. I went on to his Facebook profile (can't log in as him as I don't know his password and it sends a security message to his phone) and he has me on a limited profile so I can only see our mutual friends. Hadn't noticed this before as I never use Facebook so don't know how long it's been like that.
7. I feel shaky and sick. Surely if I trusted him I would feel fine.

My plan so far is to ask him to hand over his phone when he gets in from work. He has had all day to delete stuff though so this is pretty pointless.
I have no idea what else to do. Please help me figure out what to do next and how I will know the script when it comes out. What does an innocent man do vs a guilty man?

Isn't standard advice on here, if your Spidey senses are tingling, there's usually a reason?
I am not suspicious by nature. Probably too laid back in fact. These things I've noticed are not adding up to anything good.

I am bursting to have it out with him!

It might be standard advice, doesn't make it true. Clearly some people feel suspicious and it turns out to be baseless. But it's up to you, OP.

Triffle that is very funny indeed

OP, I think if you find a condom wrapper when your husband has been away for two weeks then most women would be sucpicious. As you have said you have lots of other things you really do have every right to be sucpicious.

Not sure how you go about finding out about bank accounts, but I'd keep a record of the numbers.

Could the empty wrapper just have been there from any number of times he has used the bag or been in a washbag that he brought from home and it fell out as he was rooting for something?
He could be completely innocent.

Well I had it out with him, he handed his phone over as soon as I asked, the name I had spotted on WhatsApp that I hadn't recognised was a relative, the bank accounts were one business account which he's recently opened and one that gives you money for opening (which I had actually told him to open to have spending money for when he went away), the credit card transaction was his new aftershave and he has everyone on limited profile on Facebook. The condom wrapper he has no idea how it got there but thinks he probably tried to hide it from our dc by shoving it into the nearest bag.

Now I feel a little silly and think maybe I need to work on building trust. How to do that?!

Glad everything seems to be okay, OP. Just learn from this, is all. You weren't wrong to be suspicious about the condom, but I think you may have allowed yourself to go looking for evidence and two plus two turned into five 😂

Check the phone bill, regular numbers called. Google or check the numbers on Facebook. Obsessive I know, but it's how I found the truth.

Oops, posted too early. So glad everything is ok.