Compliments, or lack thereof....

[Mumtonone]

Having an off day, and just bit off DH head. He's not one for compliments, but this weekend there was clear opportunity to give some.

Went to the hairdresser, he was very aware I was going. I actually think my hair looks quite nice. But nothing, not even a reference. Even my (2 year old) son manage to point at my hair and said 'mummy's had her hair cut' with husband right there. Nada.

Then today, I took him to a shop to show him a couple of coats I liked and was thinking of buying one. The wrinkled his nose at the first, the second he told me 'was better that the first'. Needless to say I left the shop empty handed.

Getting son ready for bed this evening, he made a remark that our sons bum was the cutest; I joked that at one time he'd have said that about mine. He replied saying 'I don't I've ever told you you had a cute bum' - Needless to say, told him were to go.

I know he's not good at compliments. Usually I laugh if off, or ignore it (tell myself I'm an independent woman that doesn't need my ego massaged). But sometimes it would just be nice to get some positive feedback, in any aspect.

He knows I'm in a bad mood with him and has stormed off upstairs, telling me I'm being a martyr.

Am I being stupid?

Why not ask him directly for a compliment, direct rather than fishing as it spund contrived.Try would you please say something positive about me?

My stbex was good with compliments but his treatment of me was less respectful and I know what I would prefer.

So sorry about your loss.You may need time the grieve and then look at building your friendships.My friend and I support each other and her compliments always feel so sincere.

Counselling might be a good idea if he'd give it a go. Actually criticising you in public, even as a joke, is a whole different ball game to the not giving compliments.

In your last post OP, he sounds cruel rather than thoughtless, I feel quite upset for you.

I get you OP. Sometimes a girl just wants to be complimented. Simple. My DH is similar. I feel he loves me, but gosh it would be good to hear of his love. He gives nothing away, and you know what, it's not always OK!