I read a text from the ex!

[MrsRaymondReddington]

I never go through DPs phone and this morning he was fast asleep and he got a text message which I happened to see, from his ex, asking if they could get back together. They have a child together so are in constant contact. We're engaged and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. He said he'd never get back with her in a million years and that he's happier than he's ever been with me. I've always had a problem with her and thought that she wanted him back and he's always said that I need to get over it and that would never happen. I really don't know why I'm posting, I think I just need some help getting my head around it. I trust him but this has really got to me.

Ah poor you OP. Sounds horrid. I'm not surprised you felt sick at reading the text. No doubt your anxiety about her and OH is because you could sense her motives. You weren't wrong. So forgive yourself any jealously or worry. Your instincts were right. But you have no need to worry.

Trust your partner - he dealt with it and is happy with you. He sounds like a good man and worth trusting. He will always have a relationship with her because of the DC but he will need your support through the years that continues. Cut her out of your thoughts and invest in the here and now, and your future with him and your baby - she has no place in your relationship.

Don't message her.
Don't say anything to her about it.

Just enjoy your pregnancy and your current happiness.

She'll always be in your life, because of their daughter, so you have to rise above and not give her head space.

Thank you for all the positive thoughts! I have been sensible and not messaged her. I trust DP and we've had a good talk about it all. If I were in her position right now, I'd be so embarrassed!

Garlic - wish I could have you around every time I need good advice!!

Bless you Mrs Raymond. We've all been there - sensing someone else's unhealthy motives - they do not mean you well. You got it. And its so so hard to trust the good that will protect you. Youv'e done nothing wrong you were just in tune to the harm coming your way.

Its so hard but we all need reassurance sometimes. Big hugs. xxxxx