Deliberately posting this a few hours after event as I can be pretty emotional and unobjective if that is even a word. Dh has always had issues with alcohol. He doesnt seem to know when to stop drinking once he starts. After a few drinks he can be the life and soul of a party but a few more and he can be a horrible person. When he is like this I avoid him if possible and so we manage to avoid confrontation. The 6 days a week he is not drinking he is an attentive loving husband and father. We have a good life. However he has recently been having problems with anger even when sober. He reacts out of proportion to the smallest of criticism or perceived slight. Most of this is directed at me. Last night he went to shop n forgot 1 thing. I didn't make a big deal of it but in the argument that followed he held the point of the scissors to his throat. His rage seems to deflate and he says we should just forget about and move on. But I am not sure I can now. I love him loads but his rage and the nasty personal things he says during arguments are wearing me down. He is on citalopram for a bad depressive episode 5 years ago. In between his grumpy angry bouts he is his usual lovely self. I just think something must be wrong but he minimises it and won't talk about the problems he seems to be having. How can I help him see there is a problem.