Whats the secret of happy marriage

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Been arguing with a friend whats more important to keep a marriage healthy.
I think respect she say love!!!
What do u think

You put each other ( and any DC you may have) first.

Any problem can ultimately be brought back to the basics. It boils down to one person putting themselves and their own needs before their partner's.

I think genuinely caring about your partner. If you genuinely care for someone then you want them to be happy, you'll show kindness, you'll treat them well.

27 happy years here , in our case it's love , trust , tolerance - and the fact that I have not had to see my Inlaws for nearly 20 years .

Lol at not seeing the in laws.

I think you have to treat each other as equals and that doesn't always necessarily mean putting the other first. Of course you want them to be happy. Compromise is the key.

Have managed 32 years.

Loool at the in laws lives in another country probably that help.

I think putting someone else before you is the very definition of love. And it has to be mutual or it is a world of sadness. But the question was about ahappy marriage. I put my DH first and he puts me first. If you aren't able to do that, it is not love as I have experienced it. Accept no substitutes!

This, and also to never take each other for granted.

Communication, trust, making time to nurture the relationship, putting each other first, remembering to be a wife/husband as well as a parent etc., touch, a sex life that you're both happy with, being appreciative (basic good manners, I guess), knowing you are safe and making home feel safe. I sometimes call DP my docking station. After all the busyness, I come and he recharges me

Marry someone you really like, respect and who is a good friend.

I sometimes call DP my docking station. After all the busyness, I come and he recharges me

That is lovely & sums it up really well. In the hurly burly of life, when I feel a bit overwhelmed, or irritated, or hard done to, just picking up the phone & hearing DH's vice is like a balm to my wounded soul. Being with him is coming home, wherever we are.