Such a mug & now hurt

[PJsAndWine]

Basically I had been seeing the guy for about 2 months & had feelings for him & like the mug that I am had started to fall for him.

I know I fell for him pretty quick but he said and did all the right things.

During the 2 months we were seeing each my Nan passed away then his grandad passed away so it was pretty stressful and both were/are grieving.

This week we had a massive argument over god knows what - it got very nasty & both said some spiteful things out of anger.
We've since spoken and things have calmed down, he just wants to be friends which I said ok to.

I'm now hurting and struggling and just want to tell him how I feel but scared it will start another argument

Far too much dramaz

How old are you ?

Am 22, so know I'm still young and got my life ahead, but really liked him

You poor thing, it sounds like you've had a stressful time and now this.
I wonder if it got a bit intense too quickly and you sort of bonded with each other over your grief, if you see what I mean.
One big argument doesn't have to be the end so maybe wait for the dust to settle and tell him how you feel?
I think it's almost impossible to revert back to being just friends, especially if you feel differently to him. I would say make another go of it or cut contact, rather than you hanging on for something more. I think that would be less painful.

for you.

Move on

How do you feel, you haven't really said? And why would that cause an arguement?

Two months isn't long but I think you can be sure of your feelings if you're old enough and with enough experience. It sounds like it's been a stressful time but if you're going to be trending on eggshells the whole time it's not worth it.

Move on, 2 months in but you are already saying nasty stuff to each other!

If you're arguing and saying nasty things only 2 months in, then it's not the relationship for you.

Don't dwell on it any longer, move on.

It's far too early in a relationship to be having any arguments, move on you're too young for this drama, life is supposed to be fun.

The arguments have been caused by both of us being upset/angry/hurt etc over a grandparent dying. Then just escalated as we've both kept adding to the fire.

And of course a grandparent dying means you take it out on each other ? Two months in you should both be on your best behaviour and shagging like bunnies to get over any individual hurts

Don't try and justify a shit relationship, op

Neither of you sound remotely grown up enough for a mature partnership