I've always thought that my DH is attentive and caring, however I've come to see him as quite smothering and frustrating of late; it's beginning to really bother me.
He follows me around. Around the house, watches what I'm doing all of the time and picks out better ways of doing it ( although the latter not so much just lately.) Every room I walk into, he follows me into it.
If I have an opinion or a suggestion, he's constantly picking apart the reasons it won't work or standing in my way and challenging me, rather than just accepting me for me.
If I'm on the phone in a quiet room, he'll come in and stand right next to me and listen in on the conversation, sometimes chirping in.
If I'm getting myself ready for work in the mornings he'll suddenly decide it's a good time for a cuddle or to stand right next to me in the mirror.
Then yesterday, I was doing some work from home, I went to the toilet, came back and found him snooping through my work papers. I asked him what he was doing and he said, he was just curious as to what I was doing at work. Why?!
I've spoken to him about this before and he's aware he's doing it only when I bring it up. His mother was also very snoopy as he was growing up and didn't give him much space, even as a grown man, she still sees him as an extension of herself.
I'm finding it very intense, very smothering. Sometimes, I want to run a mile.
Hes happy for me to have a social life etc, isn't possessive of me, but will ask very detailed questions about what I'm doing, where, who with etc. I'm not used to this as my own upbringin was pretty laid back in this sense (maybe too much so.)
Any support or ideas appreciated.