What do you expect from a relationship?

[pinkpixie83]

A simple question that doesn't seem to have a simple answer.

Is it purely about companionship or is it about more, support and feeling part of a team.

Bit of back ground, but Im not sure Im happy in my relationship, it doesn't feel like what i expected or wanted from a relationship of over two years.

Kindness, equality and partnership, sex, and laughter. Not necessarily in that order

Companionship, sex and fun are the main ones for me. I'm lucky in that financial security is not a need.

It's funny that you mention "team work". In my last LTR being a team was a really big part of our relationship. One of the things I'm getting used to my current relationship is that we aren't really a team. It's a bit of a learning curve!

A best friend & all of what bitoutof said really.

Selfishness, control, condescension, contempt.

That is what I expect, based on experience.

What I want = a wingman, someone who's got my back, a partner in everything from mowing the grass to cleaning the bathrooms, love, attention, respect, spontaneity, consideration, demonstrable affection...

Honesty, respect, love, understanding, kindness, amongst others, sadly honesty not always forthcoming.

Best friend, sounding board, partner in every sense of the word. Someone who makes me laugh and still (over 10 years later) looks at me as though I'm the whole world. Someone who is up for sex when we're both in the mood, but doesn't get grumpy if I'm too tired or stressed. Someone who wholeheartedly believes that we are equal and that we both are raising our children and running our household. Someone who is kind - to me, to our children, to our extended families and to the world at large. Someone who will always be up for having an adventure with me.

I'm lucky.

I expect that the relashionship I'm in supports me to be the best version of me I can be and that I do the same for him. Oh, and that we can have trust that we are exclusive.

Fun, kindness, honesty and good kissing

Am interested in the not being a team thing, RedMapleLeaf what do you mean by that?

Companionship, support, affection, fidelity, honesty, equality.

Warmth, affection, sex, shared goals, a shared vision for the future, fun, intellectual stimulation.

Respect, kindness, fun, support, physical intimacy.

These days I wouldn't stay in a relationship where I didn't have all of these, because I know what it feels like now to have a good relationship, and anything less would be doing both of us a disservice.

What keely79 said

To be lied to, let down, messed around, used for sex, and eventually ghosted.

To be lied to, let down, messed around, used for sex, and eventually ghosted.

Abuse, manipulation, gas lighting, cheating.

What I would like: respect, consideration, kindness, fun