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Sad about not having another dc

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GipsyDanger · 28/09/2016 20:08

Not really sure what I'm looking for, just venting. Me and dh, (we're 27&28) have a 6 month old pfb ds. I was never really overly broody and only ever seen myself as a "one and done" kind of person.
Seeing as I didn't enjoy my pregnancy for the most part and ended up with a emcs I am utterly shocked at myself that I would like another dc at some point. Dh does not. He had even said he would go for the snip, he is an amazing dad very hands on, but definitely doesn't want any more dc. I guess I'm just a little sad about it. I would have loved a dd but it's just not meant to be.

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HereIAm20 · 28/09/2016 20:19

Give it a bit more time. He is probably still a bit traumatised at what you went through and suffering those sleepness nights etc still. He will forget with time and in a couple of years time may change his mind.

He wouldn't be allowed the snip at such a young age. Friends who were 30 wanted one (they had 3 kids). They were not allowed to. They now have 5 kids!

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GipsyDanger · 28/09/2016 20:22

The thing is we have a unicorn baby, slept amazingly, great happy temperament. He thinks we'd never strike gold twice

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Phillipa12 · 28/09/2016 20:31

I have 4 dc and they have all been unicorn babies, so your dh is wrong on that one!

offside · 28/09/2016 20:36

I'd give it a bit more time, and don't take for granted your 'unicorn' baby, this can allllllllll change over night.

I was extremely broody when my DD was about 6 months old but circumstances meant it wasn't the right time to have another one and I'm so glad it wasn't. My DD is now 2 and we've both gone from wanting 3/4 children to most probably not having any more as we want to be able to give her the best life possible with as much opportunity, travel and comfort as we can. This does tear at my heartstrings a bit as I would still love another one, but I'm so wrapped up in my DD and the love I have for her, I don't want to miss anything she does, that I think I'll happily settle for the one.

Just think as well, if you have another one soon, you're not going to be able to dedicate as much time to your DS and experience the important milestones he will reach as fully, if you had another baby who needed more of you. And let me tell you, my DD does something new and amazing every day! I love being able to experience that with her and give her my full undivided attention.

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GipsyDanger · 28/09/2016 20:41

I would be thinking when ds was 4/5. Who knows what the future will bring. Ds is just so amazing right now, he laughs, smiles and babbles I think to myself I could totally do this again. Maybe once he's a toddler I'll think differently

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PeppasNanna · 28/09/2016 22:44

Your both so young!

Your dc is very little. In a couple of years, everything will be different.

Don't make any long term decisions just yet!

SpiritedLondon · 28/09/2016 22:59

Jeepers you've only just popped one out really. A couple of years down the line when the whole traumatic stuff is a distant memory he might feel a bit more open to the idea. Don't go making any dramatic decisions one way or another

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