sex question

[Caz101x]

I hope its ok to post this here, I did try in the sex forum but it wouldn't post. I'm unable to orgasm during sex or even get close, that I'm aware of, in fact I can't feel a lot 'in there' and it sort of feels numb, is this normal? We are both inexperienced despite being in our 40s any advice what to do?

Could be any number of things... I've had a few partners who sometimes lose it quite soon after getting it, but we just continue with foreplay until it come back! Have you tried that? Or does he just give up once it's gone?

Also if it does go, tell him not to try and force it back... I had one partner who would tug and tug on himself to try and get it back and in the end I had to quite literally tell him off for it! It's not helpful to the overall mood, and surely the feeling of stress of frantically trying to get an erection just makes it less likely? Just carry on with some foreplay for you and lots of making out and if it really doesn't come back after 15-30 minutes then get him to another GP!!

Does he make you come in other ways? Or is it all about PIV for a couple of minutes?

Hermione OP has said that she's never orgasmed before and doesn't know if she "can". She's tried doing it herself to no avail.

But no I'm pretty sure her OH hasn't even tried tbh...

Sorry - it's not even that long a thread! I blame extreme tiredness.

OP, frankly nobody is going to orgasm from the sex you're having. Does he orgasm? Does he realise you don't? If so, does this concern him?

Get him to buy some viagra. It will make a huge difference for you.

Yes he has tried with other ways for me, but they don't seem to work and I think that has frustrated him so he doesn't know what else to do. Most of the time he orgasms, he can hold it back quite a few times so I at least get some feeling, sometimes he doesn't orgasm as he's tired and has to stop. I have suggested the Viagra, but don't think he's keen, thinks he'll have a boner for hours and it won't go down!!

Caz. I have orgasms really easily and I doubt even I could with him. He's small, he doesn't do foreplay, he can't maintain an errection, he gets tired easily, he won't try vulgar/go back to the Drs ...but he wanks a lot . I don't think orgasms are your biggest problem here.

That aside...

Personally, I'd go with whaaaats advice.

Obviously I can't answer for anyone else, but for me a 'mind' orgasm is a hundred times better than a 'battery' orgasm. Once you have the whole 'fantasy' thing sorted out then work on how you like being touched, what feels good. You need to get an A* in self pleasure before even trying to achieve an orgasm PIV, especially with him.

Try you on top, so you can work your sensitive area against his pelvic bone. If he does flops out, then 'deal' with him later.

Try a Womanizer sex toy.
We got one not too long ago and it never ever fails.
In fact, since we got it, my gf has been having quite a few early nights... Alone... Weird....