Long time browser, first time poster. I recently returned to education which was hard with 4 children but I completed my course and gained myself a place at university. I have also recently lost a very close family member which was unexpected as she was so young and it hit me hard. My husband was a great support, at first. I have continued with my studies, work a part time job and look after my 4 children. Me and my husband over the last year seem to have grown apart, want different things from life and just seem to snap at each other. He frustrates the he'll out of me he has no get up n go, no conversation and generally bores me. I feel awful for feeling this way he is a good father to my 3 children and the one we have together, but as a husband I'm just not feeling it. I've been married before and vowed never to stay in a crap relationship again. But here I am years later feeling trapped in this relationship, my see drive has also disappeared and I feel no attraction towards my husband, he is scruffy, unshaven, makes no effort in his appearance and constantly pesters me for sex. It's a big issue for him that we have lost this intimacy and has told me he is considering leaving. Personally though I feel great, aside from the loss of a family member, I'm doing really well in my studies, love my part time job, first time in a few years that I've earn my own money, and my children are all doing brilliantly. Sorry for the jumbled mess just don't know what to do