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DP childish attitude

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rocketqueen · 05/02/2007 23:33

I'm getting so pissed off with my DP lately, just stupid childish comments as if he is unable to put proper thought into anything

We were discussing that program "12 and looking after the family" and the first thing he thought of to say was "well he cant be that blind if he's managed to find the hole 7 times!" and Ive just been on one of his websites where a bloke was asking how to go about sponcering a 3rd world child for his wives birthday and my DP replied:
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you could do it the cheap way:

1: find random picture of starving african child on t'internet, decide on name for child
2: print out picture
3: six months later, find another random picture of african lawyer type
4: print out picture
5: find picture of african school, photoshop it so that it is the "(made up sponsored name) school of socio-economics"
6: enjoy plenty of sexy-time for being so caring and sensitive!

sorted!
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Ok he obviously meant it as a joke but it irritates me the way he always has to act like an insensitive prick. Are all men like this?? like I said I know its obviously meant as a joke but he was the only one that replied like that, all the other blokes put proper replies.

It just angers me lately.

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hunkermunker · 05/02/2007 23:35

"sexy-time"?

[barf]

moondog · 05/02/2007 23:38

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rocketqueen · 05/02/2007 23:39

I know its cringworthy but seriously, could you imagine your blokes talking like this?

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colditz · 05/02/2007 23:41

No, he doesn't. he's not vvery enlightened, but he doesn't say dumb things like that.

hunkermunker · 05/02/2007 23:41

No. Never.

Stiller · 05/02/2007 23:43

Sadly, that's exactly the type of thing my ex-p would have said as well (about finding the whole 7 times). I don't think he would have posted on the 'adopt a third world child' thread, and I don't remember him ever asking for 'sexy time' though. PMSL

AttilaTheMeerkat · 06/02/2007 07:23

No not all men are like this. The joke he made is in poor taste as well, particularly the "sexy time", what planet is he on exactly?.

Rocketqueen, why are you with this idiot of a man?. Do you not feel you can honestly do any better?. What sort of a role model will he be for your kids?. Your boyfriend is an immature manchild who will ultimately drag you down with him. You have two children, you do not need a manchild as well to parent over.

BTW did you read any of the replies on the other thread you posted?.

That thread and now this one reconfirms my opinion of him as being a complete buffoon.

So what are you going to do?.

Anniegetyourgun · 06/02/2007 08:29

Strongly reminiscent of my soon to be ex, which is why he is soon to be ex.

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rocketqueen · 06/02/2007 11:32

Thanks for the replies,

The truth is I know he's not right for me, everything he does irritates me but at the moment I'm feeling kind of stuck as we've booked a holiday abroad and have both paid alot of money out, my kids are so excited about going and I just couldn't cancel it now, they've had loads of holidays cancelled on them before and I can't do it again, not with this one.

I just don't know how to get through to him and even if I did and he decided to change, he wouldn't change properly, he'd just change his beahviour around me for a while.

He's even messing around with this holiday now, it's booked for August and he hasn't done a thing about his passport application yet, when I ask he says he needs to have the photo's done first and he can't do that until he's had a haircut etc etc... he's not even filled the forms in yet he's seen me running around like a blue arsed fly trying to get mine sorted out. He's now taken to whinging about how much it's costing him, last night I got "oh that last holiday payment has really skinted me...I have £100 left for the rest of the month now.." etc etc... I'm worried that even if he does come up with the rest of the money how will he ever save any spending money like this? All he keeps going on about is this stupid xbox game he wants.

I feel like I've dug myself into a massive hole and there's no way out until August when the holiday is over with.

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Tortington · 06/02/2007 11:44

kids will get over it.

fuck him off. hes a twat

Greensleeves · 06/02/2007 11:51

Christ on a bike, what a wanker

Agree with Custy. Get rid of him.

itsmeNDP · 06/02/2007 11:53

Weren't you posting yesterday about your 'D'p talking to your kids in an unacceptable manner ?

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rocketqueen · 06/02/2007 11:59

Yes I was.

Another thing, over the weekend I came over with somekind of illness, I had stomach cramps and a splitting headache all day saturday, sunday I woke up again with the headache, I was lying in bed in agony and he tries touching me up and then wondered why I got snappy! and all weekend it was "what's up?" "something must be up.."

"yes I have a splitting headache like I've told you 10 fucking times already!"

I think because I know I'm kind of trapped I'm feeling much more irritable towards him.

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maycontainstress · 06/02/2007 12:02

Oh dear, I've just read the thread about your holiday.

He sounds like an immature fool to me.

You know this relationship isn't right and the holiday is 6 months away. Are you sure you can't cancel it and go somewhere else on your own with the DC? I cannot imagine the worth of waiting the 6 months and then enduring the actual holiday with him. You don't have to do anything you don't want to.

Soapbox · 06/02/2007 12:03

Why can't you ditch him and then go on holiday with the children on your own?

There really isn;t any point in prolonging this agony is there? You don't seem to like him at all - so what's the point in continuing?

itsmeNDP · 06/02/2007 12:30

You sound miserable. Get out take your kids with you and start to get happy. A holiday is not worth 6 months of misery and frustration

tiredemma · 06/02/2007 12:36

he sounds like a right twat.

OrmIrian · 06/02/2007 12:37

Oh dear. Get rid? He doesn't sound like he has much going for him - apart from a holiday that you probably won't enjoy anyway.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 06/02/2007 14:22

He'd only find something to moan about on holiday as well - your children "misbehaving", the weather, the spicy food, the funny tasting water etc. Also you'd end up bailing him out as he'd have no money of his own to spend. This manchild has not even bothered to sort out his passport application.

End this misery for your own self now, ditch this loser and take the children on holiday without him. That is all very easy to say and hard to do but you're miserable and your children pick up on their mum's unhappiness. What's worth more - your overall self worth or being with him presumably out of a fear of being alone?.

You honestly do not need him to validate you.

mumblechum · 06/02/2007 14:27

What Attila said, with knobs on.

tiredemma · 06/02/2007 14:33

Dont go on holiday with him do a name change on his ticket, about £25 it will cost you.

Therefore your kids dont have to suffer by either
a- not going away
b- going away but with that loser.

Xbox? FGS if my dp started behaving like a child over an Xbox I would literally kick him into touch.

What on earth are you gaining from being in this relationship?????

'sexytime'??? Is this how 'modern men' talk.

drop him. You dont need to put up with this idiot until august, cancel his seat and get rid.

what a tosser

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