Unable to eat

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

I found out on Sunday that my partner of 12 years had a one night stand after he stayed out all night on Saturday. I was shocked to my stomach. I would never have thought he'd do this but he has. I packed his stuff and left it on the doorstep on Sunday and only saw him briefly when he came to collect his stuff and hand over the key to our family home.

I've spoke to him since everyday as we have four very young children so I can't just call it a day with a clean break. The kids have been told for now he's working away and he speaks to them before bed.

Anyway, over the last year, after a spell of very bad health, I've piled on 3stone, taking me from slim to very plump as I'm not tall. I enjoy food, I love it. Since Saturday night when I ate my last meal of the day, I have only had half a banana (on Sunday afternoon) I just cannot face the thought of eating. I thought I'd be face down in food now my world has been shattered, using it as an excuse to eat whatever I wanted. But the thought of food makes me feel nauseous. I don't feel a lack of energy, I've been getting my four kids up and out to school, going to work and so on and I feel just fine. I'm going to force myself to eat this evening as I know I need to stay well and strong for the kids but I wondered if anyone else has had this?

Your kind words all mean a lot and I really appreciate you taking the time to reply!

High five thisismyfirsttime I'm with you there and good thinking about the medication on an empty stomach. That never even occurred to me! I felt really nauseous overnight but knew I had nothing in me to be sick so I'm definitely going to start the day with some breakfast today.

I'm sorry you've been here too abitout and thank you for your kind words.

Snowbody, my reply disappeared, so excuse me if its duplicated.

Not eating is common with shock. You've had a horrible shock. I remember that, cooking for the kids & telling them I'd eaten earlier as I couldn't face eating. Just in a stupor.

Maybe nibble on crackers if you can manage. Smoothies are somehow easier to deal with than chewing. Definitely sweet tea. I'd add B vitamins as they help your body deal with stress.

I'm glad you have a supportive extended family, that's going to help.

Don't worry doublemint on Sunday my partner had the full rath of my anger. Since then I've been accepting of the situation for my kids sake. It just astonishes me that people (fair enough only two) could read a thread like this and instead of keeping their negative opinions to themselves feel the need to say something to make someone feel shit at the worst time. That being said, I'm a very strong person and I know I am so it's water off a ducks back but I do like to get my piece in I'm so sorry you lost your dad at such a young age, how devastating for you and your mum and sister.

onetwo I love the idea I'm on a cunt diet, it's great to give it a title, and I'm very sad to hear you've been here too. What the fuck is wrong with these people. Thanks for the tip about the multivit, I'll pick some up today!

justaboy I've received some help from a neuropsychologist since my surgery but my oncologist is quite scathing of her way of doing things. In fairness I didn't get much benefit from seeing her so I stopped and that's when I got put on citralopram. I went to my gp on Monday as I didn't know how I was going to cope at that point and he's put me in touch with MIND for some counselling. as for the antiseizure meds, I was taken off Phenytonin quite quickly and put on levetiracitam (or keppra) but have been told I'll be on it for life as my first and only seizure was called a status epilepticus and ironically, if my partner hadn't been here when it happened, it would have been one of my children who would have found me in the morning which is unbearable and worrying to think of. I had hoped to discuss with my oncologist, lowering the dose come November at my next appointment but wouldn't feel safe doing that now as I'll be in the house alone with the kids. One meaningless shag has so many more implications for me then he'd ever realise.

SnowBodyforrrrm Well its good that someone is covering the drug regime some of those mentioned can have side effects and combinations thereof can be somewhat troublesome to say the least.

And yes its a bit of a worry not having another adult around in case it does go seriously wrong.

Hope its not a painful question but do you see him back there and could you forgive him at all?.

It's called the infidelity diet. Very normal.

Sorry for my unhelpful post. I was drunk and projecting :(

I hope you've been able to get some food on board now. I would recommend protein shakes made with almond milk. Slimfast ones aren't very nutritional but Tesco sell one called Elite Matrix which has a no-sugar version.

Again I apologise for upsetting you on Tuesday

I get this when I get stressed, can't eat so I have milky coffee, nibble on cheese, and have Complan drinks, unfortunately its a regular occurrence for me, I get easily stressed but have had a lot of stresses in my life over the past three years

I didn't eat solids for weeks.
The thought of swallowing was horrendous.
Sugary tea, ice lollies and soups got me through.

He's a shit and I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
You sound strong though and you've been through so much already.
Get all the RL support around you that you can.
for you.

I didn't have much time before.
At this time all food tastes bitter.
You struggle to chew anything, much less swallow and your stomach seems like it's tied in knots.

It happens to men and women in this situation. The advice PP have given the type of food to eat is good.

Yoghurts and things that you don't have to chew are good.

You need your energy to look after the kids and try and keep sane. You've had a terrible time of things and I'm sorry you're going through this right now.

I think it's best not to post on any threads when you're drunk.

Snow, how you doing?