Hi
I posted a few months ago, you may remember, i was all set to leave partner providing i got a promotion and passed my driving test. I didnt do either.
2 days before i failed my test, partner lost his job.
The day i failed my test i came home to a phonecall from my brother saying my mum had another fall and possibly broken her hip (she has been very ill this year and i have also been helping my dad care for her) I went to see her the next day and called an ambulance myself as she is so stubborn that she will not let anyone help her, and eventually got her to hospital where she had a partial hip replacement. while in hospital she suffered a severe stroke and now requires 24 hour nursing care. There have been a few times we thought we would lose her.
I also still work around 30 hrs per week and my daughter recently started school.
All this has made it extremely difficult to leave.
It has now been 8 weeks since partner lost his job, he has made no effort what so ever to find a job, until yesterday when his mum forced him to apply for some online.
I have found jobs in the paper and he hasnt bothered to apply for any of them.
The other day I gave him £50, £20 for petrol and £30 for food, and to go to aldi specifically, he didnt, he spent £20 on weed and £30 in the co op, where you get half the stuff you can get in aldi for the same price!
He also told me that part of the reason he didnt get a job was because i am so emotionally unstable he doesnt feel like he can in case i need him, but he's happy to let me go to work full time and and juggle my daughter and trips to the hospital while he sits on his arse and plays xbox! He does nothing around the house, doesnt even take the dog for a walk once a day, and moans if i ask him to pick me up/drop me to hospital.
I know i need to leave, i am just so anxious about actually doing it, and telling him. He is always in the house i dont know how i can pack without him knowing, i know he is going to make it difficult for me, i think i should speak to his mum, as she always understands, again it how as he is always around.
And to top it all off we have litterally no money, to the point where his mum bought us our weekly shop.
Thanks for reading this far, didnt want to drip feed.