This is my biggest fear. It is tearing me apart.
I have NC of course. We met this year after she had left her Ex, they are not married. He did not want to accept their split and still does not. He is very abusive. He is young, and not grown up emotionally.
She is a beautiful person, has two small children. They are his and his family rally around him, and have pressured her to stay together. It has got to threats. Taking the children etc. They know what he does is bad, but it seems 'blood is thicker than water' prevails.
At Christmas she goes to her home country. Christmas is a big family time there. His family are in that country also. They met in the UK, no back history in home country. I do not want to say too much, to avoid outing our situation, but there is a risk the children's passports could be withheld by his family, to prevent her from returning until she 'sees reason'. Maybe to not return at all. There is no reason for him to return to the UK, he has no prospects here, but her work, friends and life has been made here since her twenties.
I believe her family would stand up for her. But a small niggle says in some ways they would benefit if she did not, because she would stay home, grandchildren too.
I can see the perfect storm brewing, perhaps irrationally but I can see all those things could easily happen.
I love her. This is killing me.