Red flags - always a warning?

[polkadotrocks]

Met a guy.....he is amazing. Really like him.

He seems to be head over heels.

But...Red flags.

Declarations, actions everything all really soon. I keep reining him in. But I feel that way too. But am trying to be sensible...

Are they always red flags or can it just be a connection?

Even if you feel it you should never say it at three weeks its mental either the person will run away shut you down or join in why risk them running off by vocalizing your obsession

3 weeks? How much time have you spent together? Doing what?

Think all relationships & people are different but, playing the percentage game, declarations of love after 3 weeks, would be a red flag for about 99.99% of the population.
Maybe I'm cynical in my old age but, how could you possible know after such a short space of time.
I think he's saying it for sex purposes.

Three weeks in it is not possible to know someone well enough to love them. Infatuation, yes. If someone told me they were falling for me three weeks in, I would either disbelieve them or assume they were projecting an idealised fantasy of who they wanted me to be onto me. I would be very cautious.

I agree with Naze. It is a seduction tactic. It is a very shallow declaration of (we assume "love"- but he doesn't actually say that) a feeling based on very shallow experience/connection with you. I would wonder how that could ever be sincere.
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It seems a little too...simple. If one feels that way then that is true for them, but to say it so early on with someone else's emotions involved-it just seems to be lacking in emotional intelligence.

Don't ditch but be wary.
I would be if someone wasn't moving at the same pace as me - it's ok that it's disconcerting because it is.
I would just tread slowly. Because he may only have his own agenda (own happiness) and not very good at reading what you actually say or actually want.

So continue but carefully!

I would say red flag. Be wary.

I don't think it is a red flag yet, just be weary. Watch what else he does and his behaviour. He could be ok but you are obviously feeling uneasy about something, so don't rush into anything.

Soz meant to write wary instead of weary