havent read all the replies but i completely understand how you feel. I too went through a similar thing. I changed my conraception and put loads of weight on over the summer needless to say i didnt feel very attactive. Dh and i had been going through a bad patch anyhow nothing too serious but things werent great in bed i was finding it hard to orgasm. Anyhow we werent having sex very often maybe not at all because i felt horrible about myself i didnt have a particurlarly high sex drive anyhow. I confided in dh in how i felt as he began to wonder what was going on i explained i felt really fat and unattractive. He said that he would help me feel better about myself and help me to lose the weight etc. A few days later i was on the computer and i couldnt find one of mt files and so went searching on to stumble across porn videos. I couldnt believe it when i saw they had been downloaded ater our talk and were still left on the computer. I was so hurt because dh knew i felt insecure about porn anyhow. His timing was just thoughtless and sat there and watched it all and seeing their skinny asses made me feel even worse about myself. I was livid but more then anything hurt by dh inconsideration to my feelings.