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MOTHER IN LAW RIVALRY - LET'S HAVE YOUR STORIES!!!

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frenziednester · 04/02/2007 17:48

My mother and MIL are at it again - they turn everything into a competition as to who knows the grandchildren best/knits the best jumpers (no, really) etc etc etc. They drive me POTTY! Anyone else suffering from competitive MIL syndrome?

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munz · 04/02/2007 18:45

how about MIL wanting to see DS before my mum when he was born? to this day MIL doesn't know my mum came down the w/e b4, I wish she'd come sooner tbh. apart form that they seem to respect each other's differnces esp after my mum had a quiet word and I was caught moaning on the baby moniter upstairs

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frenziednester · 04/02/2007 19:47

Hi munz! I have also had the 'well, you've spent 2 and a half days with janet and only 2 and a quarter days with us this month - SHE'd obviously the favourite grandmother'.....

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frenziednester · 04/02/2007 19:48

oh, and I forgot the classic 'well, there's no need to tell janet you're pregnant for another couple of months' when i rang to tell her I had fallen with DS2.

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tribpot · 04/02/2007 19:50

My MIL seems to have taken up knitting, I don't know if this is in competition with my mum, but it's sort of akin to my MIL taking up tennis and my mum being Steffi Graf. She hits the balls gently and cheers when my MIL scores a point

LucyJones · 04/02/2007 19:53

ooh never had this problem as they never see each other. Not through any planning just that we don't live near either of them so we see them at different times.
Last time they all met was at our wedding 4 years ago.

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frenziednester · 04/02/2007 19:55

lucky you! Although ours hardly ever see each other, but it doesn't dampen the rivalry.....

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Chocol8 · 04/02/2007 20:34

My MIL turned to my Mum at my wedding and said "how many grandchildren do you have?" My Mum told her she had 5 to which MIL replied "well, i've got 16...and a great grandchild!".

LowFatMilkshake · 04/02/2007 20:42

My dad died when i was 6 and I am an only child, when I was 29 my mum was diagnosed with secondary cancer in December and although invited, declined to join us for Christmas at DH's grandad's because she felt she was intruding as BIL was there with his 2 months old etc.

All DH's family tried to include her except MIL, when I told MIL why my mum did'nt want to come she said "well yeah" .

DH aunt and grandad finally persuaded her and she was treated as one of the family and there were presents etc for her, and we have lovely footage fo her holding my neice. And it was a really lovely day

Sadly it was mum's last Christmas. So cross with MIL - will never forget her attitude.

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