I have been with DP for 6 years and I'm not happy. He cannot do anything for/with the children. He makes life harder. He does nothing around the house. He has form for being dishonest. He keeps his money to himself. He spends lots of time on his phone. He falls asleep early so we rarely spend time together. He can't look after the DC so I never get a break. We have nothing to talk about. He is needy and always trying to cuddle and kiss and he tells me 30+ times per day how much he loves and wants me. He keeps saying how happy he is but I don't see how.
On a typical day he leaves at 7, goes to the gym, goes to work and comes home at 7 with everything for the kids and house having been done. He often falls asleep by 9 then wakes up at 12 and is horny then looks crestfallen because I want to go to bed rather than shag as the DC are up during the night and for the day at 6. We very rarely have sex because he just irritates me with his incompetence and overdoing the declarations of adoration. He would ideally have it twice per day.
We don't argue but I feel our relationship is dead and we're just drifting because every time I think about leaving there's something coming up - like Christmas, weddings, birthdays, appointments for the DC etc. He seems fine to drift on like this forever. The main thing stopping me is worrying what to do regarding the DC. He has another child from a previous relationship whom he doesn't see. I don't think he'd pursue contact if I made it even slightly difficult. He isn't competent at looking after the children and I wouldn't want to push contact but then I'd feel guilty for them becoming fatherless overnight.
What made you decide enough was enough when your partner was indifferent and happy to carry on?
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how do you stop a dead relationship drifting on?
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mendimoo · 16/09/2016 13:47
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