Am I getting lead on?

[Gracey1231]

Hi MN friends!

I posted a thread about my relationship breakdown and I went NC. I cowardly broke it and asked him outright if there was any chance of reconciliation and he said I was pressuring him by constantly asking questions so I resumed my NC. I stupidly broke it again and sent him a friendly simple message and we had a brief chat Monday night which he ended the conversation with

"It's been nice talking but I'll have to have an early night I'm exhausted. Sweet dreams x" which I thought was weird

I have asked him very lightly if there's any point in trying to be friends or whether we should just never talk again. He hasn't replied even though I said just rip the plaster off rather than dragging this on.

He doesn't use social media and doesn't really use his phone often, except to speak to his Xbox friends who he will be playing more with now we aren't together, we were long distance anyway around 2 hours.

Why was he so nice to me? Is he holding onto something? Can someone give me some advice please because he's really messing with my head and it's torture. I don't know what to do, I want him back but this is horrible. Help :( I'm in NC again and determined not to break it!

Any advice?

Leave him alone. He is not into you.

@Seeyouontheotherside funky names. Apparently he still has feelings for me. I'm gonna stay NC. If I get tempted again I'll post on this thread and you can tell me how much of a dickhead I'll be by contacting.

Op, to be blunt, he really isn't leading you on. He's humouring you & trying to be polite

He doesn't you - you contact him. He was being polite. It's over. Leave him to his Xbox and his mates. It's rubbish, I know it is, but if he wanted to be with you he would be with you.

@TheNaze73 he isn't the type to humour me. If he wanted me to go he'd have said but idk. NC is the way forward. He was nice because I give him space he can have all the fuckin space he wants now pardon my language I'm fed up of makin effort

I've told exes let's be friends. I don't mean it, no one does. It's just something you say to be nice.

@BabooskhaKate thank you :) I have him the option to tell me whether he wants to be friends or not bother. He hasn't taken it, so it's time to let go. I've deleted all trace of him from my phone. I'm doing well so far to resume NC and I feel good today.

Thanks for all your advice everyone!!

Why was he so nice to me? Is he holding onto something?
No he's not not holding onto something but you certainly are.
You've had good advice.
Block and delete so you can't contact him again.
Begging and pleading is soooo not becoming.
Don't lower yourself to that level again.

@hellsbellsmelons
That's the main deterrent. I'm making a twat of myself to be frank
It's his loss and if he wants me he can come to me but tbh I doubt I'll reply I can't be holding on forever

Stop chasing him, it's not dignified or warranted, he's made his feelings pretty clear so don't understand why you keep pushing, you are doing the right thing going nc, if he really wants you OP, you will soon know.

@adora1 exactly I look a proper knob right! Yeah I'll enjoy myself, maybe switch my hair up lmao

You may be be surprised, once you cool off he may suddenly find the urge to contact you.

You may be be surprised, once you cool off he may suddenly find the urge to contact you.

For God's sake, don't encourage her.

@BabooshkaKate
She wasn't, I'm not contacting him. I feel better for it.