How much time do you spend with your boyfriend/husband?

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This might seem like a petty thread and i'm probably over-reacting but I could do with some advice as it's so much harder to judge when you're the one in the relationship.

I've been living with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we've been together for 2. He's got a very healthy social life and is often out with his friends during the week and at the weekend. Sometimes we only get to spend one night a week together and it feels like I hardly get to see him.

I rarely get invited out with his friends and although I like spending time with my friends it would be nice to see him once in a blue moon!

I have brought this up with him on several occasions and he always promises that we'll do more things together but whenever it comes round to it we either end watching football in the pub with his best mate or we just end up sitting in the flat. He also says he's sorry whenever I get upset about it but then can't stick to his word for some reason.

I've tried really hard to organise things for us to do, places to go to etc but quite often it just doesn't happen.
And if we're meant to go somewhere after work he ends up going to the pub with his colleagues instead of coming home to pick me up!

Sorry that this is such a rant - I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem and what to do about it?

He is a lovely boyfriend when he is around though...

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we spend as much time together as possible. sorry, but it doesn't sound like your bf is making much of an effort...

not enough!

Can't you organise a couple night, and pick one night of the week where you stay in together, or go to the pub / cinema (just the two of you). One night a week isn't much to ask- if he can't stick to that then he's just plain inconsiderate.

On average....about 4 -5 hours a day!

An hour or so before he goes to work, about three hours when he gets home...before I go to bed.

His average hours of work at the mo are 8am...till 9pm.
He's SE and I miss Him.

In response to the OP...He does sound as though he is putting himself first. I think you maybe need to let him know you need to have a bit more time to yourselves.

I'm not sure that the number of hours rally comes into it - it depends on jobs etc and I know people who effectively work opposite shifts to avoid paying childcare so rarely see each other.

But the real issue here is where your bf's priorties lie, and it sounds as if a) you are in second place to his social life; b) you might not have as many interests in common as you need to have to secure a long-term relationship.

It doesn't sound as if you are keen on pubs and football. What do you do for fun, and how does bf feel about that?

it sounds like you are flatmates rather than a couple in a relationship tbh.