The Freedom Programme...

[OnceThereWasThisGirlWho]

Just a question about the Frredom programme... I reported a (historical) rape a while ago and it really brought hope how many abusive tossers I seem to attract/get caught up with. I'm basically avoiding relationships now. The police suggested seeking counselling or talking to a charity (can't remember which one) and I said I'd heard of the Freedom Programme which seemed like a good idea. However, they were adamant it was just for women actually in abusive relationships and was advice about how to escape or keep physically safe in that situation.

I feel like I'm just a crappy person who can't do relationships and has got fucked up by a tiny fraction of what stronger women have gone through, feel like I'm making a fuss about nothing and felt so stupid for suggesting the Freedom programme if that's the case.

But I thought it was more general about avoiding/spotting abusive men. Is it different in different areas?

Doesn't sound like the police officer you spoke to was very well informed. The Freedom Programme is for women who have been a victim of or affected by domestic abuse and is very much about learning to recognise abusive behaviour and improve self esteem so you make better choices going forward. Have you looked for a local course independently OP? You can search for one near you here www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/search.php

I'm currently on session 3 of The Freedom Programme, and it makes no difference whether you are with, leaving, or have been with an abusive partner. One of the group is 6 years out of a relationship. I'm still in love with my husband, so it's hard for me, but I'm finding it useful regardless. I don't think raising one's self-esteem is ever a bad idea!

I did it. It's excellent.

I have also had extensive counselling to deal with the root causes of my own patterns. Attachment problems in early life particularly. I was badly abused as a child, but didn't really realise it, or just how bad it was.

I have attracted people from a similar background psychologically. Men with chaotic attachment patterns and abusive parents.

It has taken years, but is more than worth it.

Thank you.

Queen - may I ask, was there a particular type of counselling you had?