Need a little advice from an outsider opinion... We have been together 14 years, two children. Have had a couple of breakups in those 14 years but ended up back together, all fine. My issue is I find him very needy, he constantly wants sex. Will ask most days and stupidly over the years I ended up giving in if he offered me something, for example.. When children were babies and I was too tired he would say I will get up early, so in end I would do it. Fast forward all these years later and it's still used as a bargaining tool, but for other things. Think housework. Obviously there are times where I will do it because I fancy it, but these a few and far between. I do know other couples who do this so have kind of thought ah well it must be normal(ish).
He constantly wants to be in my company when he is not at work. Always wanting kisses and cuddles, groping my bum or boobs as I walk past. Texts me all the time telling me he loves me etc etc. Which of course is all very nice, but I just find it smothering. After 14 years together I'm happy to just live alongside each other, not in each other's pockets!
He is a lovely, kind, caring partner and I know the grass is not greener. But I do wonder if his behaviour is 'normal'? I've tried talking to him and he will sometime agree he's a bit much, mostly he will say that we are loving partners so i should be happy to do these thing. Quite honestly I don't fancy sex very often, I'd be happy once a month. Also I do not feel the need for constant affection. Is it normal for me to not feel the need for this, is this just what happens after so many years together?