am I in the wrong

[IreallyKNOWiamright]

Last September I had a fall out with a close friend over confronting my dh about an issue.
The last few days we have started speaking again and are planning to talk about what happened.
One thing that is bothering me is my dh is adamant that I shouldn't be friends with her and why am I bothering getting back in contact.
I have asked him if anything has gone on between them or whether the confrontation with them was about her seeing him with someone else.
He had gone into denial again and now not talking to me. Was I in the wrong to suggest this but I don't like how he is trying to control the friendship and acting shifty when I mention about re connecting with this friend.

There is no third woman here is there ?

Your husband met your friend for coffee and lied about it. The rest seems a trifle confused. But your H really doesn't want you talking to her. Why would that be ?

There is no third woman here is there ?

Your husband met your friend for coffee and lied about it. The rest seems a trifle confused. But your H really doesn't want you talking to her. Why would that be ?

Oops, double post.

Yes that was my thought too lesis

I would absolutely accept the olive branch in the hopes of getting the full story.
You go down that path though and you need to be prepared to 'hear' your friend.
If your husband continues making such a big deal and expects you to drop the friendship, I'm not sure I could get past that. It would mean (to me), in the absence of anything else, there is def something to hide

Unless she saw them kissing or something, it is odd that she'd confront him about being with a woman anywhere.

It's either herself or she knows a lot more than she told you.
Either way, do you really want to be with this man?

Aye?

Who was the person he met? How do you know he met someone? What part did he lie about? Why did you say your friend wasn't being a good friend?

Did your friend find it haha funny or strange funny ifyswim?? Odd that he is so against you meeting up. I'm afraid that curiosity would get the better of me & given that you nearly split up over it , it's important to clear it up once & for all - I'd meet your friend. Odd that he won't take you to this particular coffee shop - what's the big deal?? Hope it's a misunderstanding that can be sorted quickly or in worst case, you'll have some clarity as to the reason behind the argument.

Your DH has a special coffee shop for meeting females in. You are not taken there. He lies about meeting women there. He refuses to take your calls when he is there, even if he is late to meet you. And lies about it more.

Trust issues. Understandable. I always have trust issues with lying cheating twats too. It's not a bad thing.

Your friend saw him there and confronted him later because she is your friend and he is cheating on you. You dumped the friend and kept the liar.

The friend who won't lie for him, who will challenge him, who will stand up for you, wants to be friends again. I bet he is very fucking worried indeed. It might seriously interfere with you interpreting his lying cheating behaviour as being you having a problem with trust.

Sadly, you aren't the first to shoot the messenger.