So my beautiful DS was born last month, his daddy was having an affair with me ( I didn't know) and left me when I was 3 months pregnant. I wrote to him when my son was born with some pictures of DS and said he could see him whenever he wanted etc and also wrote to his mum and dd to say their grandson was born with some photos etc.
The grandparents haven't responded but he messaged me to say
'He feels nothing for 'it' and I decided to keep 'it' so it's my problem. He wants nothing to do with ds, and he doesn't want me to contact him ever again as he is trying to win back his real family and not hurt anyone anymore. He then went on to say that he doesn't speak to his parents anymore because of me telling them about our ds and that I shouldn't contact them ever again either as they want nothing to do with ds!
I have applied for child maintenance but now I feel terribly guilty for doing so and I feel guilty for upsetting his parents.
I don't want to hurt anybody it want the best for my beautiful little boy who didn't ask for any of this and is innocent completely.
I just wanted him to know his family.
Was I right to contact the grandparents and was I right to claim child support.
I truly hope his parents want to be In my boys life and the money from csa will certainly help me to give him what he needs.
the ex has other children and I don't want their life to be upset if my claiming csa causes problems for him and his wife and the contact with the grandparents causes problems too.
It doesn't help that I have PND and I'm feeling so anxious about everything.