I told him to shut up and he did

[Lulu2515]

Driving home last night from time with his family, I asked for his help at a roundabout...he told me the wrong exit then slagged off my driving so I snapped at him saying he wasnt helping and telling him to shut up.
He called me a miserable bitch and told me not to speak to him.
Hes not not talking to me at all, wont look at me and said hes not coming to my family thing today.
Im crying in the shower.

Sorry for hijack Lulu. This thread is helping me to not waiver from leaving.From from the outside its so obvious but when you are in the middle of it you question if you are taking enough responsibility for your actions.

Im torn between crying

Stop bloody crying! You need to get yourself out of there and giving him last chances just plays into his hands.

When you get back - or even whilst you are away today - go online and see what properties are to rent near where you work and go look at a few this week. You could be out of this shite in a fortnight.

Good posts Hermione and toptoe.

Can I just add - don't engage. If he is being giving you the silent treatment then just carry on as normal as if you hadn't noticed; don't cry and beg him to explain what is wrong. You are just playing into his hands.

Then start thinking seriously about the future.
Good luck!

Controlling and emotionally abusive. It's no way to love. You've had a few months of decent behaviour, probably the honeymoon of having a baby, but doesn't sound like longer he's a great catch, sorry.

This is who he is.
Is this how you want you lives to be?

Have stopped crying.
Am at family thing. Came back on to stop myself texting him!

Sadly we live in london and theres no way i could afford to live alone.

Look at what you would be entitled to by way of help as a single parent (benefits calculator online) - where you live makes a difference. He would be expected to pay child support too. If you're married, then assets are joint.

Have you friends that might consider a house share? You might want to consider moving back near to family anyway - is there work in your field round there? Does your company have branches there? Is working from home and occasional commuting in possible?

There are always options.

He sounds horrible OP. People who can watch their partners cry and be utterly unmoved are scary in my view.

It's never easy to leave, there are lots of things to consider. But why let this man reduce you to a crying wreck?

You're much stronger than him. You don't need to emotionally wreck somebody else's life just to make yourself feel better. He does. What a pathetic tosser.

Plan your exit. Let him ignore you. Why would you want to talk to him anyway. And don't text him.

You are flogging a dead horse, love

No way am I excusing his behaviour but tbh, I wouldn't have much respect for someone who responded to being treated like shit over and over again by just crying

do something, or this is all you can look forward to

move jobs move area leave him

Looking up rent etc for place near my mums. Am cross though, hes taking away my whole life if i have to leave.

Had a lovely family day out, make excuses that he wasnt well. Came back, still ignoring me.

Fucking fat fucking piece of shit arsehole

That's the spirit.

He is an utter arsehole.

But he's not taking away your whole life - it's just going to go in a different direction. One that'll work out a shit-ton better for you.

He kind of is in the short term though. I have a job that i love and i love where we live and ill have to leave all that.

Saying that, i could rent myself a littlw house near my mum for the price of a sandwich in london...

Hes snoring now. Fucking shit face.

Short-term.

But you'll be free, and you will re-group.

I just think being ignored is the worst thing. And when i asked him to tell me what id done that was so wrong, he said if i didnt know then he wasnt going to tell me.

he's playing games with you. He's a shit.