Has anyone dealt with a stalker before? Feeling really unsettled. *TW: violent language*.

[FollowingMe]

Namechanged..

Some odd stuff's been happening over the past year.

Firstly, I got a Facebook message from an account name I didn't recognise, and it was a comment about a video of me singing that I put on Youtube ages ago and forgot about. It was only really for friends and family to see and only had 7 views. It would not have come up easily in a search, and the account it's associated with is linked to an email address that doesn't include my real name.

The Facebook message basically insulted me, saying I sound fucking horrible and should kill myself. I deleted it and put it down to someone finding the video by accident and deciding to troll.

Fast forward three months and I got an Instagram request (again, the account is private and not under my real name). The person had made a fake account in my name, called "Retarded(myname)". They used a photo which was a still from the video. This creeped me out because I had since deleted the video.. so they must have saved it.

The worst part was the writing, which said I'm a "cockeyed cunt who needs to learn to cut deeper" (I have a lazy eye, but it's not visible in the video.. and sadly I self-harmed when I was young.. again not visible in the video, and only known by those close to me).

It also made mention of the time I was hospitalised for psychiatric reasons and said something very unpleasant about the hallucinations I was having at the time, which brought them all back.

I was really upset by this. The only person I could think of who knew all the details was my ex. We had a codependent relationship, he was addicted to cannabis and he was once physically violent to me, but often to objects e.g. smashing his phone to pieces. We had a terrible three years together and the breakup triggered my hospitalisation and breakdown. He refused to move out of our house, cut himself and threatened suicide to make me take him back. It was the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life and I was only 22. Thankfully, no kids with him.

After I dumped him, he also put a keylogger on my laptop without my knowledge and tracked all the stuff I did online for a year before telling me over the phone when he was drunk because he thought it was funny.

I also got abusive texts from him after the breakup, calling me a prostitute because he heard I slept with someone knew (though god knows how he knew this).

I have since replaced my laptop, phone etc.

I'm pretty sure he is the stalker doing all this. It just "sounds" like him. But I told the police and they put it down as a "domestic disagreement" and said they can't do anything about it, even if my mental health is being specifically targeted and it could threaten my recovery. He once friend requested a close friend on Facebook, but then deleted the account. I think it was just to just let me know he's "out there".

Has anyone else been through this? What do I do? I feel happy now in terms of my life, but I feel like he's behind every door, waiting, biding his time to do something else. The police even told me not to have social media, but I use it to keep up with family and would hate to lose it.

Thanks for listening, it's a bad night tonight.

[darthmaul]

The topless photos is an offence, don't be ashamed you have done absolutely nothing wrong. You need to be 100% straight and upfront with the police if they are going to effectively help you. It can be very freeing be being able to share things you feel ashamed of then find that people don't judge you for it.