Can I overcome low self esteem and feeling jealous?

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5'7, blonde, 45, long legs, always look smart, hair & makeup done...

Feel inferior to other women, unattractive. I look at other women and think they always look better.

Unfortunately my partner tends to stare at women when we are out, he doesn't realise he does it and we have talked about it..he is trying not to when he remembers, but I don't want to feel like I'm controlling him.

How do I overcome this? Ii feel really low

I agree with adora1, start saying did you see that hot guy!

Having said that I would say chill out, all men do it except the boring ones!

Theres a diff between a glance and staring to the point your upset he should have eyes only for you and if not id be getting rod wether you think drastic or not

It's only boring men who don't gawp

I don't think you really believe that Rosie

You're kidding yourself saying he doesn't realise he's doing it - he might use that excuse but of course he does, he knows fine well and doesn't care he's upsetting you. He's probably coming across as quite creepy to the women he's leering at too. If you are not prepared to dump him then you will have to put up with it because he's not going to change.

I could have written this myself . However I just have to think; There will always be someone prettier even if your the most beautiful girl in the world. 😣.
It is sad that your dh stares at other women in front of you have you spoken about it with him?

from the perspective of the woman being gawped at- its seriously horrible and makes me think the gawper is a tosser. its not a men do this women do that issue but yes mainly men do it- because they rule and women put up with this shit

Turned, I know what you mean. I've been gawped at before and it feels intrusive and makes me very uneasy, which is probably also why I struggle with my partner doing it too.

I am close to coming clean and having the 'chat'.. I just don't want to cause friction between us and as I'm better at writing about my feelings I may just do that.. is that a good idea (I worry I'll come accross with an awful intonation if I speak that will set it all off in the wrong direction

Sorry. Meant to say rumred not turned

He does know that he's doing it and quite frankly any man that stares are perverts and honestly look desperate. Wouldn't go out with him if he's acting like that and would ask him what he's hoping to achieve by staring as any women seeing that are already insulting him.

op if youre clear about what you want and why you want it then go for a discussion and gauge his reaction and attitude. useful to listen and watch rather than talk. it makes you uncomfortable, its disrespectful to the subject/victim, you want it to stop. it isnt unreasonable to raise and have out in the open. hope youre ok op

Discussion held. Message understood and he's making a real effort as I don't think he understood the effect it has on me or anyone else. Thanks for your support x

hope it works out op. remember your feelings matter, dont put up with any crap